Why I Was Away From Blogging For Too Long + What I’ve Concluded

“It’s interesting, isn’t it, to watch this character attempting to reconstruct herself, quite literally, in the midst of this chaos?”
Liz Kay, Monsters: A Love Story

Why hey there, guess whose vacation is finally over?
This girl!
Okay, so no.
I was not on vacation from my blog. (Vacations are planned and super fun, yeah?
Plus you give your people the big news before running off.)
I did none of that.
And I’m honestly sorry. I truly am.
The last few months have been life changing and pretty nerve-racking but I refuse to hide behing all of this without personally taking some of the blame.
Too much time has flown by so first, welcome back to my blog if this isn’t your first time — thank you for showing up here again.

I wasn’t sure what to do when I finally came back on here at first, but I put together a little something.
This post.
My last article, a fictional series which I’d most definitely continue went live January 6th and nothing has come up since then.
I honestly did a lot of worrying as to how I was going to make a comeback, after more than three months.
It was far from intentional, but still, I was pretty much disturbed.

For one, I fell seriously ill late December (a terrible case of ulcer that’s still healing) which carried over into the new year, so I was far from the healthiest.
And then college started in January and so I’ve been away from home and my super fast Wi-Fi, but most importantly, my tablet got damaged and wiped.
I lost everything. Literally.
From my articles down to my favorite pictures, even to the point where I spent weeks trying to gain access to my blog and my email addresses as it was all stored on my device.
It was all quite messy.

Thankfully, my health is much under control than it was eight weeks back, I’ve got a better plan for accessing the internet even when I go back to school, and I was finally able to gain access to my blog and email addresses a while back. (yay!)

The ugliest parts are over.

And from all of this, I’ve come to a couple of conclusions that I just had to share here:

1. I will never stop writing.

So for anyone who got worried, this is out here now. It is not going to happen.
I couldn’t even if I wanted to, and nothing could ever change that.
Even while I was away from my little corner on the Internet, I got busy doing offline writing. A lot.
Between working on a script for a friend of mine and content ideas for a new client, it’s been splendid.
There were days I wasn’t feeling myself however, days I didn’t want to do anything else than sulk and worry and miss my blog and feel pity for myself but then something else hit me hard during one of those silly days, which leads me to my next;

2. If you drop it, it starts to decay.

They tell you talents and passions are natural endowments, but they still require a lot of nurturing.
When all of this just began, I got so sucked into all the stress I didn’t write anything for weeks.
And after a while, I lost the zeal to write.
I just didn’t feel like it. It was starting to look like too much work.
What’s the point anyway?
I think I’m having writer’s block today.
And wait, was I still doing this for free?
I’d start later, maybe next week.
So much started to get muddled up in my head.
Don’t think you can’t kill your passion with your own hands, you can.
Every day you decide to sell yourself short because laziness or because procrastination or because doubt or because fear, you let that talent decay a tiny bit more.
And that itself was a huge disservice as far as I was concerned.

3. People need you here.

And I think this was the most beautiful conclusion.
For months, I had people checking up on me, asking what happened, wanting to know when I’d be back, what they could do to help, (someone even offered to make a financial donation — thank you!)
And then I knew, if you’re giving value, people know. And people see. And people will wait for more.
Every single one of us, as long as we’ve picked up a role in someone else’s life, have automatically left footprints on them.
It’s just wrong to think of it otherwise.
So if you’re impacting, in anyway at all, you are too important already to your world. Don’t ever forget that.
Thank you to everyone who didn’t give up on this girl. 😊
4. The messy days are days for cleansing.

The days everything crash and burn, take a deep breathe, and know you have to fix things.
Those are the days for sorting through every single rubble.
For rearranging.
For detoxing.
For dealing with excess trash that you wouldn’t have seen if things didn’t go awol.
Appreciate those days.
They’re the hardest but they bring out the tough in us and force us to do better.
Just like Mitch Albom said:
“This is life. Things get taken away. You will learn to start over many times — or you will be useless.”
(The Magic Strings of Frankie Presto)
5. Your excuses need to start making less sense to you if you’re ever going to do anything tangible with yourself.

For those weeks, I was constantly telling myself, “you have a good reason to be away, there’s nothing you can do, too much is going on right now.”
Lies. Lies. Lies.
That’s something we tell ourselves when we’re too comfortable in our comfort zones.
You have no excuse, remind yourself of this every time you’re about to cover up for yourself.
The ones who win in life don’t wait for life to favour them or for things to get better, they go and they win.
Somehow. Anyhow.
Mediocracy would never take you anywhere special.
And what good is it if all of this was to settle with the ordinary at the end of the day?

No. Heavens forbid.

Deliciously Yours To Savour,
Ima | LemonsLemonade.com.

More Juice?

  • Thoughts, anyone?

  • Celine Klooster

    I always have those excuses too, but I always keep going. Blogging is so much fun and I just can’t stop.

  • Welcome back! I love to blog as well so I’m sure I’ll always be around. Writing is what helps keep me sane and I love to connect.

  • Divya Budhraja

    It’s definitely true about experiencing writers block when you’re away from it for so long. If too much time has gone in between posts, it’s harder to think about what you’re going to write about or how to sum it all up.

    • Imaobong Asuquo

      Exactly, and that can turn out to be so exhausting

  • Yes. Never stop giving good content. You never know when it’ll get viral:)

  • Julie Torres

    Welcome back! I like this post, helps to understand everyone goes through lulls and blocks.

  • Imaobong Asuquo

    Thank you so much ☺

  • Imaobong Asuquo

    You’re very welcome Austin, thanks for stopping by!

  • Anamika Ojha

    Sorry to hear about everything that you went through! But yay! you’re back and the most important part is with full new spirit! You go gal!

  • Blair Emma Bondurant

    So glad that you decided to come back!

    • Imaobong Asuquo

      So am I, thanks!

  • Carolyn Waring

    This is an awesome read! Sorry to hear that you were ill and other things not going so well, but also glad that things are looking up for you! Welcome back 🙂

  • Léanie Karlien Foot

    I just had to read this post due to the title, there was many times that i just wanted to stop blogging. I had taken a break, but i usually have made an announcement on my SM channels, but i realise when i don’t post people un-follow me, not that they are even reading it. Some do read, but they don’t leave a comment. Sometimes it does feel what the heck nobody cares what i have to say. I’m glad that you are back writing again and that you have such wonderful readers. Enjoy the blogosphere!

    • Imaobong Asuquo

      We all have people who look up to what we do as bloggers, and when we stop for a while, they notice too, don’t ever think otherwise.
      Thank you so much for stopping by Leanie, it means a lot!

  • Kaitlynn Charalambopoulos

    Welcome back to blogging! I think all bloggers probably go through a hiatus period at some point for one reason or another. Good to hear your health is back on track. These are good lessons learned

    • Imaobong Asuquo

      Thank you so much!

  • So so so true. If you leave it too long it just becomes easier and easier to never come back to it. It hurts to lose something you loved so, especially when you are responsible for letting it die. Welcome back, never give up on the things you love… But hey, it’s okay to take a break once in a while.

  • Deimarys Colon

    Love your fifth one. I have those kind of days, even weeks too. I just have to tell my self snap out of it and be back to whatever it is I was doing and put on hold.

  • Erin O’Loughlin

    We all need a break every now and then, and illness is a totally legit reason. But then it takes concentration to find that routine again and get back to the things we love to do. Welcome back!

  • Imaobong Asuquo

    Thank you so much!

  • Eugenia Nazarova

    I am so glad you’re getting better and welcome back! Sometimes it’s good to take a break but it’s important to find strength to come back because only you are responsible for your own happiness. Enjoy what you love doing and move forward!

  • Glad to see you bounce back Ima!
    Writing can be hard sometimes and like you mentioned here, if not put into constant practice, it can slip out of one’s hand bit by bit.
    Please ensure you take much care of yourself:) Remember “Health is Wealth”

  • Imaobong Asuquo

    Your point is so valid! We put the most pressure on ourselves.
    Blogging is something that should be fun and enjoyed, anything less is just not worth it.