Five Simple Reminders For Those Really Good Days

“I’ve a habit of placing a happy-face or a frowny-face on my calendar, depending on what kind of day I’ve had.
 Often I slap a droopy circle in the box, discouraged by the things I failed to accomplish and the unpleasant encounters endured.  But then, invariably, a wise muse stops to ask me these three questions:
Did your children let you hug them today?  Yes.
Did you do a kind deed for someone?  Anyone?  Yes.
Did God forsake you today?  No.
Then, my dear, despite your challenges, it was a good day after all. Standing corrected,  I twist that frowny-face upside down and smile.”
― Richelle E. Goodrich, Smile Anyway: Quotes, Verse, & Grumblings for Every Day of the Year

 
 

Honestly?
You cannot really know how to appreciate even the averagely okay days until you’ve had a bunch of really nasty ones — trust me, I know.
Weather’s perfect.
Your health’s perfect.
Your mood is perfect.
Your special someone’s doing everything perfectly well.
Your bank account’s perfect.
The project went perfectly well.
Everything’s looking pretty good.

You know those days?

This season in particular definitely has a lot of us in high spirits, which is, of course, amazing.
And I know we’re all excitedly looking forward to the new year and all its got down for us, and looking over the years and over all the good times and the bad in between.

And so today, I’ve decided to share five wisdoms that are personally super important for me to carry along every single time life is being pleasantly kind, and remembering them could go such a long long way every time!

1. You’re allowed to totally enjoy that moment — no matter how unbelievably relaxing it’s looking.

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No matter how much you think you shouldn’t.
No matter how “too good” it feels.
Never, never, never let yourself get used to hardship that you’re actually not comfortable when things are comfortable.
It’s hard to relax for some of us.
And no, I’m not exempted.
For the last couple of days, I’ve been feeling better after a reslly crappy illness,yet I constantly kept having panic attacks and stressing and worrying about a relapse.
I’m learning that I can do so much better.
It’s so easy to think you need to be so on guard especially when you’ve been getting a lot of unpleasant surprises,but it’s so much easier to just bask in those good days.
Enjoy those smooth sailing days.
Relax. Take a longer nap. Savour that meal more slowly. Stop checking your phone every hour.
You deserve happiness.
You deserve fulfillment.
You deserve every good thing you can possibly get in this life.
Yes, things will not always be this rosy, but isn’t it more sensible to completely bask in the rosiness when it comes?
 
 
2. No. Everybody is not obliged to feel happy for you.
Don’t set yourself up for disappointment, people.
You know how deflated you get when you share a really big deal news and the response you get is like “okay. And?”
Then you go back home and for the rest of the day you’re wondering if you’re overexcited for nothing?
If it really is that big of a deal?
If you could drop into the earth for a few years?
Yes?
Don’t do that to yourself.
When you stop expecting so much for others, you start to do so much more for yourself.
No one can feel what you feel like how you’re feeling it — don’t do that to yourself.

3. Sometimes, keep your good news.

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Honestly.
Sometimes wait longer.
Sometimes, spread the word to less people.
You’re super excited, your butterflies are legit doing the happy dance, your insides are bubbling, you’re feeling ecstatic — still, don’t pour it out at everyone’s feet.
Everyone isn’t happy you’re happy.
Everyone doesn’t like it.
People still do that silly thing called comparison, called jealousy, called spite.
And sharing your happy moments with the wrong person? Not a good idea.
Even in all the excitement, take precautions.
Don’t give so much details, don’t plaster it all over the place.
Easy on social media — don’t be doing too much, mo matter how much is happening.
 
 
4. You are not responsible for someone else’s day that isn’t going as well as yours — unless you’re responsible.
Yup, it’s a pretty good time to show some act of kindness or to lend a helping hand to someone else.
Yes, be there for that beautiful friend that’s hurting, do the best you can to be a support system, but at the end of the day, the only one who can help one, is one’s own self.
Each and every one of us is responsible for our own problems, and so anyone that’s trying to make their problem solely yours just because you seem to have strong or capable shoulders, is wrong.
There is only so much you can do for others at the end of the day.
 
5. It’s not too early to start counting your blessings for the days you won’t be able to see them quite clearly.
That’s how you comfort yourself on those really tough days.
It wouldn’t automatically make those days easier, no.

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Do you have any new year resolutions yet?
The very first at the top of my list already is to document down every day one thing I’m super grateful for, starting from January 1st.
The other day I was going through my journal and it brought back so many amazing memories and it showed me how blessed I have gotten over the years.
On the rainy days, it’s so tough to see any good,so start counting when the sun is high up.
 
Have you been having an amazing holiday this year?
Did 2016 hit you with something massive too?
Let’s talk through the comments section!

So, I honestly cannot believe 2016 is almost over and school is starting in less than a week for me (and no, I’m so not ready for college life! Help!)

I can’t wait to bring massive changes to this blog in 2017 (turning this into something more serious, officially going to start accepting guest posts and plenty more!)
What are you looking forward to do in the new year?
You’d be off to a good start if you begin to do those little work on them from right now and not waiting till January 2017!

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Thank you so much for sharing 2016 with me, darling reader — and a happy, splendid, magical new year in advance.

 
Deliciously Yours To Savour,
Ima | LemonsLemonade.com.

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  • Looking forward to 2017 and for me I really hope it will be a more happy and positive year than 2016 which I’m glad to put behind me because of all the major life changes that have occurred. Never thought of putting smiley face on calendar, and half the time I don’t even think I know what day it is. Good thing fiance circles the day in the morning 🙂

    • Lol aww
      Sometimes I’m not even sure what day it is myself,but I’m definitely looking forward to 2017 eagerly!

  • I am totally with you on not being able to relax. Ever since my daughter was born I struggle so much with pointless anxiety! I needed this 🙂

    • Aww I do hope this helps as time goes by 🙂

  • These are really great tips. I’ve been having to keep my good news a lot lately but of course everyone will find out eventually. Lol. Happy New Year to you! Wishing you much success.

    • Lol at the right time they will
      Happy new year in advance, darling 🙂

  • I agree you’ve got to be positive, not just going into the New Year. When I’m having a bad day or am suffering from chronic pain I just try and think there are people worse off than me. I let myself feel sorry for myself for a short while and then push forward.

    • Exactly, that’s a rather thoughtful way to look at it, things could sure be worse.
      And so we need to always stay positive and hopeful.
      Thanks for stopping by, Lisa!

  • I love this post so much! What a fun way to reflect on the year that was and draw some wisdom out of your experiences. Cheers to an even better 2017!

    • Thanks Angela, happy new year in Advance!

  • God, number two is so key!!!! sometimes, you have just hit something big and you wanna share it and when you do and. people are like so? take for instance, a blog milestone and you are like ‘Yes, finally crossed that line and it was so just in one night when I was thinking two weeks,’ and you are doing your happy dance and you tell friend and he says ‘They go pay you? ‘ and you try to explain and they belittle you and what you are doing!! like recently, I conttributed to an online platform and when I was telling someone how this is really awesome and I can’t believe I finally got something as a writer and the person said ‘At my age, when other people are making millions am here getting happy because I wrote for one blog’s sighs. people are just mean
    quirksandoutfits.wordpress.com

    • I can so relate Vincent
      Lol
      It’s rather sad when that happens but I’ve learnt how to shake it off — they can’t understand, their loss.

  • I’ll have to try and enjoy that moment. I usually think something bad will happen next lol

    • Been there too, and it’s so unhealthy!

  • This is exactly what I needed to read new years eve. Thankyou so much for putting it in perspective for me.

  • I rarely make resolutions! I am looking forward to 2017 though. I feel like it’s going to be a fabulous year.

  • This is great! I totally agree with sometimes you have to keep your good news to yourself. Everyone is not always in your corner, I’ve learned this the hard way as well.

    • So have I!
      I recently got some amazing news and it was super hard to share because too many other people around me are desperately in need of this as well, one can never be too careful.

  • Great reminders about making the good days even better. Happy New Year to you and we’re looking forward to see where you take your site in the coming year.

  • Love this and I totally agree. If we all took the time to be grateful for what we have, we would be much happier on a daily basis.

  • Kimberly @ Berly’s Kitchen

    Wonderful message in your post. Sometimes it hard not to get wrapped up in the bad days or when others have bad days, for that matter. These are some great tips to keep in mind. It’s always nice to try to find the positive each day no matter how small it may be. Wishing you a happy and healthy 2017!

    • It’s really important.
      Thank you for stopping by Kimberly, and a happy 2017!

  • I want to focus more on appreciating the small things, doing things for me and smiling a little more. I am happier with compliments that are offered and not forced out I think they are more real so I know when someone tells me something first it’s the truth. I want more honesty and truth but it will not control or motivate me. 2017 is going to be more purposeful for me!

    • Very well said, Rose.
      Perfectly said, and I do hope 2017 is as purposeful as it can be for you 🙂

  • 2016 has been a big one for me – my mother died and i moved across the world. And a few other things! No new years resolutions for me – I think you need to be constantly refining what you want from life.

    • Wow, that’s a lot
      And I totally agree, there’s no need to need to wait for a new year to define some things in your life.

  • Indeed! I am so excited to make my 2017 more productive and fun. Hoping that your 2017 would be an amazing year, always be thankful and appreciate small things because big things comes from small things 🙂

  • Jenni Petrey

    This is such a thought provoking post. I’ve been determined this year to get my anxiety under control so that I can lead by example for my daughter. Thank you for posting this.

  • These is great advice! I admit that I tend not to appreciate the really good days as much as I should, as I temper it with the knowledge that bad days will come again. That is really silly. I should just bask in the good day and let it be. Thank you!

    • Yup we all should
      And you’re welcome Jennifer!

  • Loved reading this! Great reminders and bits of advice that I think everyone can use once in awhile at least.

    Ashlee
    http://www.theivoryfawn.com

  • Awesome post!! 🙂 Wishing you all the best in the New Year!

  • I really appreciated reading number 4! I need to remind myself that I’m not responsible for someone’s else bad day or feelings! Happy new year!

    • Nope, you sure aren’t!
      Happy new year 🙂

  • blair villanueva

    Glad that you are back and well now. Keep on inspiring many of your readers!

    Happy New Year!

  • Nifesimi

    This is really good…wishing the best this year

  • Elizabeth O.

    A good day is meant to be savored! I think it’s important to enjoy the moment especially if you’ve been under a lot of stress lately.

    • Very true, always bask in the good days!

  • Thanks for writing such positive words. It feels good to read and motivated at the beginning of new year.
    May this year be full of positivity and happiness. Happy New Year!

    • Thank you Anne, and a happy new year to you!

  • excellent advice! If you are happy and excited about the things going on in your own life it really doesn’t matter if anyone else cares or not! I live for me and for my family only! Happy new year!
    lianne @ http://www.makesbakesanddecor.com

  • Loved this post! I agree, we should totally relish in our awesome days because we deserve to be happy. Hopefully we can use that good energy to brighten someone else’s day!

    • That’s the plan, to spread that positive energy best as we can 🙂

  • Love this and I couldn’t agree more that we should all celebrate those “perfectly awesome” moments a little more! Happy New Year!

    • We really should
      Happy new year Cara!

  • I’m always having to do something. I just can’t relax. This year this is my goal … to relax and enjoy my family more.

    • Lol I can so relate
      I’m doing the same right now, good luck to us both 🙂

  • 2016 was full of massive change and chaos for me. I am positive that 2017 will be better and I am starting it on a strong note!

    • Thats so good to hear, best of luck darling!

  • I absolutely loved this post!!!
    Yes it s okay to enjoy yourself without feeling guilty about it.
    I’ve been living under most of your tips and I’m definitely a happier person, for that reason I felt I had all the right to celebrate on NYE, cheering for all my accomplishments! It’s okay to be proud…I didn’t think like this before but that mnd set has change my life basically 🙂
    Happy new year!

    • Aww this was so good to read 🙂
      Thank you so much Carolina, and have a fantastic 2017!

  • These are great tips! I will eat healthier and try to sleep more in 2017. I also promised myself to be fearless and take bigger risks + travel more.

    • I hope you stick to all of that, happy new year!

  • My husband has been cancer free for one year. 2016 ended on an extreme up note for both of us. Praying 2017 brings nothing but good news.

    • Wow, I hope it brings great news only Candy!

  • These are all great life lessons. Definitely a list worth keeping. No one else is more responsible for your happiness than you.

    • Well said
      You have control over that!

  • Excellent post. These are some great reminders that we should remember to stay positive. Here’s wishing for the best in the new year!

  • Kaitlyn

    I really like the quote you used at the beginning. I often think we are too hard on ourselves when it comes to measuring our success by what we accomplish each day. I have had to learn this especially this last year as I became a mother. The best days are the ones I look back and can honestly say I didn’t do anything I wanted to that day, but everything my son needed that day. God bless!

    ♡ Kaitlyn
    http://www.mypostpartumlife.com

    • So true, Kaitlyn.
      It’s so easy for us to put so much pressure on ourselves daily when we really shouldn’t.
      Thank you for reading and a happy new year 🙂

  • Hey! These are all great points and great things to think about going into the new year! I especially like your point #4 – You are not responsible for someone else’s day that isn’t going as well as yours. Definitely no need to feel guilty! Supportive? Okay, but not guilty!

    • Exactly, at the end of the day, we’re responsible for our own lives!

  • Amazing reminders! Thank you for sharing! I love that you said you should jsut enjoy your moment, sometimes we forget and let it pass us by.

    • Unfortunately we do
      Thanks for stopping by!

  • Love these 5 things! I really want to work on myself this year. I am constantly doing for others and it’s time to get back to a healthier mindset.

  • I am teaching myself to fully enjoy the good moments too!

    • And I do hope you constantly keep that in mind!

  • OMG totally needed this!

    • And I’m glad you got it Tianna 😀

  • Bring on 2017. We all have our bad days or moments. Bing eat, have a good cry, yell or punch something. Just don’t take it out on family and friends.

  • Jolina

    This is a lovely read to start the year. We keep a happiness jar where we put notes in everyday about what made us happy that day and on NYE we read them all. So yeah, despite us thinking what a crappy year it’s been, it’s really full of little miracles. I’m looking forward to 2017! Have a great one!

    • I’m picking up that habit this year as well!
      Happy new year Jolina 🙂

  • Colleen Wool

    These are awesome tips. looking forward to 2017!

  • Able to relate on several levels; great read. I truly need to think about smiling each day and no matter how hard I try it seems it just bites me back. I keep trying for a better year and this year I truly feel it will finally be a good one (heck, I would settle for decent).
    Looking forward to your 2017 and seeing where you go!

    • Thank you Michelle, have a beautiful 2017!

  • I absolutely love this post .. especially when it comes to writing down one thing every day that you’re grateful for. I’ve kept a gratitude journal for the past couple of years now and it’s one of the happiest things I’ve ever done.

    • I know right?
      Something as easy as keeping a gratitude journal usually goes such a long way!

  • I needed this reminder today, thank you for sharing.
    We do have control over our happiness–and it needs to be something to focus on and learn from.

    • Yup, we really do.
      So glad this was helpful Nicole, thanks for reading!

  • Being a busy working mom, I always find it hard to relax and stress has become a routine issue these days. But I always stay positive to make sure everything is approached in a better manner as life is all about ups and downs!

    • Positivity is always super important 🙂

  • Oindrila

    Wonderful post dear. 🙂 I don’t make any resolutions but I really do hope 2017 brings loads of happiness to everyone’s life. Happy New Year. 🙂

    • I pray the same for everyone, happy new year dear!

  • These are really great tips! Happy New Year to you and your family!

  • My New Years resolution? To create more valuable content for my readers and to spend more time with my family. 🙂

    Mhaan | http://www.mommyrockininstyle.com

    • Sounds pretty similar to mine!
      Hehe
      Happy new year!

  • “Never, never, never let yourself get used to hardship that you’re actually not comfortable when things are comfortable.”

    That was an amazing line and the truth for some of us, or in most cases – me. I hope to focus more on the good part and am already having the feeling that 2017 is going to be an interesting year.
    I think i saw a commentator mentioned that sometimes he doesn’t know the day’s date, Me Self

    Happy new year Ima and wishing you the best in your academics☺

    • Happy new year Tunde, and it’s so good to hear from you!

  • It’s difficult to count blessings on days things are tough.
    But practicing thankfulness has helped me immensely over the last 3 months.It’s good that ypu introspect so much.A very happy new year to you

  • Sarah

    I seriously love this, all such great reminders!!

  • Carola

    What a great idea to put a smiley face on your calendar every day. I think I’ll try that too. it gives such a nice overview. These are very good tips! I totally agree with you. And this makes it easier to enjoy a really good day!

    • Imaobong Asuquo

      I’m so glad it was helpful, thanks for reading!