For Those Days We Worry About How Life Will Turn Out 

“How would your life be different if…You stopped worrying about things you can’t control and start focusing on the things you can? Let today be the day…You free yourself from fruitless worry, seize the day and take effective action on things you can change.”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
 
 
 
So Friday night, after a really hectic day, I managed to find the time to scroll through my Facebook timeline (I usually never have the time) a bit and came across a particular picture.

It was a much younger Will Smith, and it was probably a cut out from a movie he was in (someone please take me to the movies!), and it said:

 “I’m scared man. I mean, what if I never get my life together?”
(If you have any idea what movie this was, please let me know through the comments section!)

Why this hit was because earlier on Friday morning, a friend of mine asked a similar question.
So quick question now: Have you ever met a chronic worrier?

Someone who cannot help but worry no matter how things are looking right now?

I’ve been there.

And it’s super addictive.

I think that’s the saddest part.

It turns into something you’re frightened that if you do not indulge in, the whole world could crash on your head one night. 

But it’s a dangerous place to stay in, I tell you. 
I won’t come here to tell you I no longer have a single worry in the world.

That’s not true.

Occasionally, I am caught up in worry and I get super anxious and fear attempts to rob me of my peace of mind.

But I’ve learned to rise above all of that most times.
 
And so today, if you find yourself worried about the future, worrying about problems that do not want to go away, worried about finances, worried about your health, worrying from the minor things like if you’d have enough to make this Christmas super lit or the major things like if you’d ever find someone who’d actually love you, let’s start from here:


 
• If you refuse to admit to your fears and your worries, you’re only giving them somewhere to hide and grow.

It’s okay to feel that way.

It tells that you’re human and it tells that you actually want to make something out of your life.

It’s okay to acknowledge their existence.
 
• You are not alone darling.

All over the world, people are terrified of going bankrupt tomorrow, of loosing their loved ones too early, of not making something tangible with their lives even if they graduate from college, of not ever being able to break free from unhappiness.

You need to know that you are not alone in this.

I have had friends approach me with the whole “your life looks so great — you just have it all figured out” speech.

Well guess what, friend?

NO!

I do NOT have it all figured out.

There are nights I crawl into bed and I’m scared.

There are days I’m doubtful.

I just know that I cannot allow myself constantly dwell at those low points — and so I do not.

Too many people let all of that overwhelm them completely. 

Suicide rates are rising alarmingly.

You can rise above this. I promise.
 
• Like I would repeatedly keep repeating on this blog for your sake (and for mine), the day you stop to see other people as your competition, you automatically stop worrying about A LOT of things.

You are on your own lane.

On your own lane, life has provided for you so, so, so (did I mention so?) much that you could possibly need on your own lane.

There is NOTHING you need to finish your personal race that you do not already have or that would not come at the right time.

Take it one step at a time.

If you need to sit to rest at a point, sit your butt and rest and gather up your strength.

It doesn’t matter who’s running past you.

They are NOT on your path and they will NOT run you over.

Did that sink in?
 
• No matter how ugly things are looking right now, they can ALWAYS get better.

They won’t get better just because you want them to.

They won’t get better because you’re hoping they do.

But they can most definitely get better if you’re doing something about them.

Doing the bit that you can.
 
• Talk to someone about how you’re feeling.

Trust me, all of this is so relatable to so many people you’d be surprised.

And sharing burdens sure help lighten them.

Open up to someone you trust.

 You just might get more support than you’d expect.
 
• Sometimes that worry and that fear that we feel is what helps to keep us focused.

There are thousands of stories of successful people who say that it was because they grew up with so much poverty and with so much backwardness and with so much lack around them that they just had to do something about it.

Channel all that anxiety into the right place.
 
• Relax.

 You’d get to where you want to if you just relax and keep moving at your pace.

The good things in life take time.

And the waiting and the work are what grows us.

It’s exhausting, but don’t let it wear you down too much.

Do your own part and enjoy this journey — no do-overs, remember?


 
• There are things you will have zero control over.

You cannot do a single thing about them.

And you do not have to worry over those things simply because that’s just the way they are.

All you need, is strength.

Life is totally unpredictable.

We hear stories of those who had their lives turned around overnight and we’ve seen major names crash down in the blinking of an eye.

Yes. That’s scary.

But whatever’s going to happen ultimately will at the end of the day.

My point here is, life gives anybody anything.

But you know one thing those who seem to get sweet slices from life more than bitter have in common?

They’re not burning time worrying and thinking.

They’re not waiting to see what life could bring and just hoping it does them right. 

They’re fighters. They’re tough hearted. They’re taking life a day at a time. They’re working. They’re praying. They’re believing. They’re working. They’re working. (Yes.) 
You cannot worry and believe at once, remember that.

And if you’re not believing, you cannot possibly be receiving.
 
For every time worry sucks all the life out of you, I truly hope you remember these truths.

And no matter what life brings tomorrow, fighters always come out stronger.
 
Did I make much sense to you?

Let’s talk— how do you handle the fear of the future?

Have you ever been a chronic worrier?

Let’s share our own methods of approach.

And if you think you know someone who’s at this point in their life right now, kindly use the share buttons to pass this along.

Thank you in advance 🙂
 
Have a beautiful week, precious!
Remember, everything you’ve ever wanted is at the other side of fear. 


 
Deliciously Yours To Savour,

Ima | LemonsLemonade.com.

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  • Hey Ima,

    Life comes at us, sometime you make your plans, tighten loose ends and expect all to work our as we intended. But sometimes, what we call life just happens. You just need to brace up and look on the positive side.

    Great one Ima

    • Yeah, very well said Chinedu.
      At the end of the day, there is only so much we can do.

  • Thank you for this timely message. It’s time to stop worrying on things you cannot control and focus on things you can!
    http://www.writeitloud.com

    • Yup, it is time 🙂
      And it’s so good to hear from you, it’s been forever!

  • So true! When uncontrolled, fear can be your biggest enemy. We shouldn’t worry too much about the future. At the end of the day, we are not even sure that we will wake up tomorrow! We should enjoy the precious time that we have and just live a life to the fullest.

    • Hmm
      So true.
      It’s much better to live in the right now.

  • I have a lot of anxiety over small things I can’t control. Just recently, we’ve heard of all the fires in Gatlinburg, TN and there was another fire that broke out in Oakland, CA. So many innocent people doing regular day-to-day things lost their lives. And so, naturally, my fear of death becomes larger and all-consuming.

    It helps to talk to my husband about a lot of this stuff. He’s reassuring, but also very practical, reminding me that there are certain things we can control and other things we have to just let go of and hope for the best.

    • So good to hear you have someone to share your fears with.
      I used to have a crazy phobia for Cancer in particular, it’s just so weird how it could come from nowhere!
      But I’ve learnt that there is no sense in letting your fears suck all the joy in your life, and studying my Bible helps plenty too 🙂

  • I could relate with this post so much. Few months back, I was dwelling in my own miseries. Fear of future, planning and all that sort of things kept bothering me. I couldn’t concentrate on anything. I started keeping myself busy into little things just to keep my mind off these. And thanks so much for this article.

    • Yup, there are so many ways for us to distract ourselves from those scary thoughts.
      Works for me too.
      And you’re welcome Oindrila!

  • Yes! I try to always remind myself that just because I’m having a crappy day or week, it doesn’t mean that things can’t get better. They usually always do!

    • Works too well for me too — everything passes by!

  • I think it goes back to age. As I get older I understand, appreciate and worry less. I don’t worry that my kids are not in every sport, that I don’t drive a 2017 car or my house isn’t as big as some. I appreciate what I have as I know there are others in a less fortunate state in all areas of my life. I need to look at the glass as half full and be happy I have something in the glass even if it’s just water. I don’t have time to worry.

    • Very beautifully put together 🙂
      Sometimes we forget to see how far we’ve come when we keep worrying about how far we’d get to.

  • I used to be a chronic worrier. Not so much anymore. Thank goodness! I’ve gained so much wisdom over the past few years that lead to me no longer feeling the need to always worry. Do I still fall into worry-mode at times? Well, yes. But it is no longer habitual and trust me when I say, LIFE IS SO MUCH BETTER THIS WAY! Thanks for sharing another great post. You”re awesome!

    • Yesss, I love how positive you sound, Briana!
      And you’re totally right,it’s not possible to completely eliminate it at once but once you understand that it’s bad for you, you consciously start to try 🙂

  • I worry ALL THE TIME! It can get a little overwhelming. When I am really stressed out I pour myself a cup of tea and watch mindless television. It helps!
    xo Jessica
    http://www.whatsfordinneresq.com

    • Lol music and something really sweet does wonders for me too.
      And sleep.
      You never go wrong with sleep.

  • I love that quote “everything you ever wanted is on the other side of fear”.
    We all have worries but it’s even sadder when they rob us of our present and future

    • Really sad.
      It’s only human to worry but you have to get that that’s not the best for you!

  • It’s a great inspirational saying that we can’t control what tomorrow will bring. We only have today. That should be our focus. What we can control which is right in front of us! Thanks for the message.

    Beth || http://www.TheStyleBouquet.com

    • Exactly, plus we can do so much with our today that’ll take care of whatever might come tomorrow to a massive extent!

  • Thanks for posting this: I’ve been feeling frazzled lately and I think I just needed some inspiration to pick me up. I think I just need to step back and re-evaluate some of the things I’m doing. Thanks for reminding me that I’m not the only one going through an extra stressful/busy time!

    • Nope, you’re not Lisa.
      I hope this helps plenty — thank you for stopping by 🙂

  • Life is tough… but I love the photo at the end… “Life is a Beautiful Ride.” I try to remember that the ride is worth enjoying… and we all have ups and downs.

    • Exactly.
      No matter how crazy it can get, life is beautiful.
      End of story.

  • alotta of us just has this constant fear, and sometimes the fear isn’t entirely rational but is there… like me, I wonder if I can keep up with the world in fifteen years time, isn’t the world too fast paced? What if the create new social. media platforms and I am clueless about Them….lol… but my greatest fear in life is just not amounting to anything…. There is admitted it
    quirksandoutfits.wordpress.com

    • I think that’s a fear we’ve all had to deal with — myself inclusive.
      Best thing is to trust in your abilities and start to do something about it from right now.

  • oh and I think that movie is Fresh Prince of Bel Air
    quirksandoutfits.wordpress.com

    • Oh really
      That’s one series I never follow unfortunately, maybe I should 🙂

  • blair villanueva

    Beautiful post.

    I learned in life that honestly and truthfulness will set you free. Like, you admit of your flaws and accept it, but do something to make it positive. Being true to yourself and stop overthinking will ease your stress, and you’ll be happy.

    • Very valid points.
      At the end of the day, we’re human and it’s okay to be that!

  • Lara

    Nice post 🙂
    Really helpful reminders.

  • Nifesimi

    We all can’t seem to stop the fear of some things…but this will definitely help..nice Ima

    • Yeah, that’s true
      But we can curb it to a great extent.
      Thank you Nife!

  • I love your outlook and it came at a perfect time. I’ve become a worry wart.

    • Lol haven’t we all been at some point 😀

  • You’re very right about this Ima,
    Sometimes the ‘what if’ worrying about the future seems just irresistible and too much of it robs one peace of mind
    Especially when you realize you’re the only one who’s moving in a slow pace and others around you have gone xo far!
    May God help us

    • Yeah, I can so relate to that.
      It’s why giving up the comparison game is so important if you’re going to focus on what’s important — yourself.

  • I love that you followed, “Life can always get better” with “It won’t get better just because you want it to.” Too often we get caught up in the positive thinking and forget that we actually have to DO something! Thanks for the reminder!

    • That’s right — and the craziest part is that “Doing” are the little things that we often don’t realize their importance, it doesn’t always have to be massive 🙂

  • Your honesty is so refreshing! I love “real” blogs and I’m so glad I found yours!

  • Aww, this is such an inspiring and motivation post! Thank you so much for sharing it! It’s very important to remember, especially during this rush reason, when everything is like upside down.

    Cheers, Eliza | http://www.fashion-confession.com

    • Aww thank you,Eliza.
      And yes, I so understand what you mean!

  • There are a lot of things out of our control and learning to move with the current and not against it is a constant battle. “Let go and let God” is a great reminder to just breathe and know that everything happens for a reason. Show gratitude for the good things and take lessons from the bad.

    • Yesss. Have you heard the song “Let Go, Let God?”
      It helps me remember to do that every time!

  • This is really more common in women because we are over thinkers. I have been a “whatiffer” most of my life but have to admit as I’ve gotten older it has eased so much.

    • Lol
      A “whatiffer”
      Good to know growing up helped you deal with that, Heidi!

  • this couldn’t have come at a better time. life seems to be so hectic and chaotic right now its hard not to worry constantly. but that gets us nowhere. thanks for your words of encouragement today. they really hit home

    • I’m so glad this got to you at the right time, Kristen
      Sending plenty of virtual hugs your way 🙂

  • LOVE this. I’ve been working hard the last few years on living in the moment and NOT to worry about the future to the point of increased stress. It’s about the small things each day.

    • It sure is, the little things from today always count tomorrow 🙂

  • I love this. I used to get super anxious and worried when things wouldn’t go “according to plan”, but I’ve since learned that I should take life as it comes – I’m exactly where I need to be, so there’s no point in stressing. I’ve been happier than ever. 🙂

    Christie’s Take on Life. xx

    • And that sounds great!
      I’m gald you finally found your peace, Christie.
      It’s so important.
      Thank you for stopping by 🙂

  • It’s easy to allow little fears to snowball in to bigger worries for sure. Sometimes you just have to quiet your mind and take a deep breath and trust that things will work out.

    • That’s right — you just have to let things be and TRUST it’ll be fine in the end 🙂

  • I appreciate your transparency here…when my mind gets churning like this I find it helpful to focus on what is true. If what I’m worrying about isn’t truth (meaning it hasn’t happened yet) then I don’t focus on it, but rather stay my mind on what I DO know is true. Really helps stop that negative/worry cycle.

    • Yes!
      That’s a great way to approach it, Kelsie.
      And if more people learnt to filter their thoughts like this, it’ll be so “freeing”.

  • Just like wine you get me high. God bless you richly and always

  • I’ve found that since I’ve had kids I worry much less about ‘life’ and more so about them. It’s really done wonders for my anxiety too, interestingly. I am able to power through some things if my children are there- if not… I’m a wreck!

    • Lol aww
      Great example of focusing on the truly important things 🙂

  • I’ve definitely struggling with being a chronic worrier in the past. I’ve found that focusing on other things has helped. Reading a good book, doing yoga, or meditating has helped me worry less on the things I can’t control and focus on the present moment.

    • Yup, a good distraction can do so much good.
      For me, that’s music or calling my best friend or someone else or even helping someone else 😀

  • Really like the name and the look of this blog!

  • Ana

    My mom is worried about every small thing that she can’t control. At times, it drives me nuts but I can’t change her now as she has been like that for so many years. But as a daughter, I try to console her every time!

    • Yeah, it’s hard to change anyone solely — best thing is to just be there for them and trust someday they realize they deserve better than living in fear.

  • So easy to say the words don’t worry, you can control anxiety blah blah blah. For those who have these attacks words don’t help. I have friends who have learned what triggers and what works. Don’t give up.

    • You’re so right, much easier said than done.
      And finding out your personal triggers definitely goes a long way!

  • Thanks for this. It’s something I’m sure we all need!

  • Thank you for this amazing post. I think it’s just what I needed right now (fun fact: I just celebrated a BIG birthday and yet I feel like I’m 12…)
    ps: the quote is actally from The Fresh Prince Of Bel Air 😉

    • Lol happy birthday in arrears, Francesca
      And thank you, I need to check out that series!

  • Jen

    Thank you so much. This sums up most of how I feel, most days. I’ve been in such a bad place lately, questioning everything down to the point of our existence. I’m tormented by questions I have no answers to. I try to push them down and rise above, but it’s hard. It’s hard, but I keep showing up. I’ve got a husband and three beautiful children who need me here, in the present, with them. They are my motivation to not let the depression get the better of me. I just want to say I am really impressed with your blog and the sense of community here. You’re doing something great – keep it up!

    • Aww, you just made my day, Jen!
      Thank you so much, so good to hear from you!
      And you sound like a really strong woman, you just keep pulling yourself together for your family — every phase must pass!
      Thank you for stopping by, thank you, thank you, thank you 🙂

  • What a wonderful post full of great advice. Here’s to less worry. 🙂

    • Yup!
      Thank you for reading, Melissa 🙂

  • One of my favorite quote is “everything you ever wanted is on the other side of fear”
    It’s normal to have worries but we have to face and win them if we really want to reach our goals. You gave us the right motivation!! Thanks 🙂

    • That’s so true, all you want is after you fight against all the “what ifs” on the way.
      And you’re very welcome!

  • Since I have a movie blog, I should know where the quote from Will Smith is from :). Haha and I do and I see in the comments other people also know, it’s from the Fresh Prince of Bell Air. Love that show. I agree that we all worry. We’re not alone. It sometimes just hits you: One moment everything feels very secure. The other moment you’re getting doubts. I try not to worry to much. And just take it day by day. And otherwise talk about it and try to have a back-up plan. But for me, it works to just not focus on certain things solely. Aso accept that things will change and that I can’t control everything.

    • Hehe, yup, and thank you guys for pointing it out!
      And I think you’ve got a pretty good way of handling your fears.
      It’s going to hit us all at some points, it’s what you do with it that matters most.

  • This is just what I needed right now. There are times when I’m very anxious & I must say it’s good to have someone to talk to and someone who is patient enough to listen to you.

    • Yup, it’s so good!
      And I hope this post helped plenty 🙂

  • Bee

    I’m an over thinker and I tend to ignore a problem instead of facing it 🙁 working on that though

    • And I hope you learn to overcome it, Bee!

  • I have been feeling super depressed but the existential kind of depression where i try to get what my purpose here is and why is the world is fucked up and on and on the list goes.
    This is also because I just move to a new big city and it will take some time to get used to and I am also always very busy to hang out with people. So this post is very much needed and thank you for sharing and encouraging us all.

    • Aww
      I’ve been there too, and I sure hope you get to a good place soon.
      Making conscious efforts is the key.
      Thanks for reading!

  • lex

    the fact you did this post is so cool, at this time of the year when plans come and at the end a few dont come true, thanks for the deep thoughts and encouragement embeded in this. great read and worthy of a share.

    • Aww thank you so much, and you’re very welcome Lex 🙂

  • Great! I got your message, move forward, problems will never end.

    • Very well said Mitesh
      Thanks for dropping in!

  • blair villanueva

    Most of the time being alone is awesome! You’ve got a chance to do whatever you like withoit interfearing others. All you’ve to think is your self, and its great opportunity to strengthen your relationship with ourselves.

    • Very true, it sure has it’s advantages 🙂