Six Quick Reminders For Every Time You Fail

“You must make a decision that you are going to move on.
It won’t happen automatically.
You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life.” 

― Joel Osteen, Your Best Life Now: 7 Steps to Living at Your Full Potential

 
 
 

The year is almost over (plus my birthday’s only a month away — yay!), and so I’ve been going over the last 11 months, and all that I’ve been picked up along the way, this week.

I’ve also been reading a lot of autobiographies and learning from the experiences of the ones around me, and one thing that 2016 has shown me clearly is that anything is possible if you deeply hope and believe and trust.
And take action, of course.

For most people,the fear of the future and all it could bring is one of the strongest.
No one wants to turn out as a failure.
The thought is scary enough.

But no matter what point you are in life right now, I have six little reminders for you about any anxiety you might be feeling or may have ever felt regarding failure and I truly hope it inspires someone this weekend and beyond:

1. Past failures? Means absolutely nothing.
Same with past successes.
Forget them.
Really.
Reminds me of some silly teachers that think they can predict which one of their students would turn out successful tomorrow.
That’s all nonsense.
Heck, Thomas Edison and Albert Einstein sure proved theirs wrong.
For every failure, wisdom is provided to do better if we look well enough.
If we put aside our shame, there is so much to learn.
Micheal Jordan’s story in particular was one that caught my attention greatly.
Not just that he was cut off from his high school’s basketball team alone, but the main details:
He said: “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
Now, that’s guts!
9000 shots! 300 games!
How did he suddenly become one of the greatest?
Pushing forward. Unrepentantly.
 
2. People really and truly are and still are, starting from the scratch.
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Too many of the most successful names that look like demi-gods in our eyes now had to rebuild from point zero. Repeatedly.
Go talk to Google if you’re doubtful.
So many.
And so do not use that as an excuse to give in to depression and fear and to exhaustion.
It’s not.
So many were total failures.
Write-offs in their fields.
No one could understand why they kept going.
That didn’t matter, that didn’t stop them.
For every roadblock, they looked for another way.
It’s not a big deal unless you make it one for yourself. Really.
Why?
I personally have a strong conviction that when you know what you want and set your mind to it, the universe as a whole just has to work to your favour.
It doesn’t matter how many times you start all over, as long as you keep it coming, something has to move.
Do you believe me? I sure hope so.
 
3. No one turns out to be a failure in life because of failing.
Nope.
Failing and rising and failing and rising does NOT make you a failure.
Because if you must succeed at anything, you must fail,and you must fail with your dignity and with humility and with a heart open to learn from that failure.
A failure can only be one who is filled with so much shame,that they become too frightened to fail again they stop trying.
The only thing capable of labelling you a failure is what you do next after failing.
Remember that.
 
4.You don’t need every single person on your side.
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Too many people still carry around the mentality that those who fail probably didn’t make good use of those around them or didn’t really have resourceful and influential and useful fellows as support systems.
Actually, they most times relied too much on those around them.
And that’s where a problem starts.
Don’t need others to push for you.
If something is important to you, carry it by your darn self.
And like Thomas Szasz said: “The proverb warns that, ‘You should not bite the hand that feeds you.’ But maybe you should, if it prevents you from feeding yourself.”
 
5. There’s no maximum number fixed to how many times you should fail before you giving up is justifiable or acceptable.
So, I love chicken.
Anyone who knows me knows this.
And of late, I just found out something interesting about one of my favorite chicken outlets.
So Colonel Sanders of Kentucky Fried Chicken apparently had a hard time selling his idea at first.
I’m trying to imagine that. I cannot possibly.
But it’s true — his famous secret chicken recipe was rejected 1,009 times before a restaurant accepted it.
1,009!
And I just wonder, how??
I mean, it’s just a recipe.
He could have easily discarded it and put together another.
(And I never would have come in contact with one of my loves. The horror.)
But, really, this is one of the reasons I have no envy or jealousy for the ones who really suceed.
They earned their place.
They fought for it.
They did.
And so, how long you’re willing to fight for your place is a question you alone can answer.
 
6. It is never too late to win in life.
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Simply because life doesn’t end when you do.
And one thing we forget is that our lives are bigger than what’s around us.
Sometimes we have no idea who’s watching, who we’re influencing, who we’re inspiring, who’s equally drawing strength because we somehow gather strength together for ourselves.
And that’s winning, my friend.
That’s winning!
Sometimes we find out much later, sometimes we do not.
But it is never too late to leave your mark.
Artist Van Gogh sold only one painting, and this was to a friend and only for a very small amount of money.
He was never a success during his life,yet he kept on painting, sometimes starving to complete his over 800 known works.
Today, they bring in hundreds of millions.
Van Gogh did good — I don’t care what anyone else says.
Leave your footprints, somehow.

 
 
It’s easy to look at the lives of those who have hit it big in life, and we become worried, and wonder if we can do the same.
Well today, I want to tell you with all confidence, that yes.
Yes, you can.
Just do not doubt your abilities, don’t belittle what you can do.
For every good thing, there is a price that must be paid.
So keep that in mind, and keep your eyes on success, nothing less.
Failing is inevitable.
But you can choose to go through life with fear and shame because of this or with confidence and assurance because no matter what — come hell, come high water, you’re hitting that darn mark.

 
 
(And a massive congratulations to my sweetheart MaryAnne, who inspired me to put together this post, by getting into her dream school that’s considered pretty tough to get into, to major in Engineering, after trying a year and failing at it, and trying again this year with slim chances but actually trusting my words when I encouraged that all would definitely turn out well in the end.
Thank you for paying even the least bit of attention to me.
Can’t wait to see all those matriculation photos!)

 
Keep believing, darling reader.
Because yes, yes you can.
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Deliciously Yours To Savour,
Ima | LemonsLemonade.com.

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  • Indrani

    Very inspiring post!
    Just the thing I needed today morning for my sagging spirits!

    • And I hope it keeps helping overtime, thanks for stopping by!

  • Oh what a lovely feel good post. Thanks for sharing this, its a lovely reminder to end the week with. My favourite point is number 6 “It’s never to late to win at life.”

    Lennae xxx
    http://www.lennaesworld.com

    • It truly never is — I’m glad that resonated for you.
      Thank you for reading 🙂

  • Doris Amaka

    Enough to encourage

    • Aww
      Always good to know — thank you, love!

  • Killy

    Another inspiring post by ImaIma dear, i will love it if you wrote a blog about “insecurities” i know you wrote that last two months ago but I’ll love it if you write more about the insecurities that girls face mostly about their beauty and weight…. i pray you get inspired to write a wonderful post like that

    • Aww, thank you so much Killy darling!
      And yes, I can definitely put together another post about insecurities from this angle, thank you for pitching that.
      Always good to hear from you, have an awesome weekend 🙂

  • Thank you so much for your positive words. Your post is really uplifting and inspiring. It is never to late to start over from scratch and succeed! Hooray!

    • It’s never,you just have to want it that bad.
      Thank you for reading 🙂

  • I always enjoy reading your posts. So eye-opening and honest. Thanks for sharing!

  • I love you Ima!
    I recently read somewhere that this thing called failure is not falling down but falling down and refusing to rise up. No matter how many times we fall down,. we can always rise again.
    I totally agree with the point that says you can not have everyone on your side. If you are waiting for everyone to come to your side, how miserable will you be. Not everyone will love you. So you must not work to please people but work to please God.
    I love your friend for inspiring you to write this!

    PreciousCore.com

    • I love her too – hehe!
      Thank you so much, ma’am, I’m so glad you concur with my points.
      And thanks for stopping by, have a blessed weekend 🙂

  • I love this! Yes, everyone can do it! Just keep trying. Or, like Dory the fish says, “Just keep swimming!”

    • Yup, keep pushing forward and nothing can possibly stop you from getting there!

  • lex

    positive and uplifting post to start my new day. its just 6:44am down here so yes this is a morning tea for me. thanks for this.

    • Lol I hope it fills you up good 🙂
      Thank you Alex!

  • Devina

    Refreshingly honest and super positive. You have uplifted my spirt! In this crazy world or blogging and social media I keep thinking I’m failing but this helps me keep things into perspective.

    • I’m super elated to hear that, thank you so much for stopping by 🙂

  • Nifesimi

    Nice Ima…definitely gon help

    • I sure hope so, thank you darling 🙂

  • Thanks for this inspiring reminder! I hadn’t heard that Michael Jordan quote before but I really like it, it’s so important to remember that no one succeeds without some struggles and failures at some point.

    • I really like it too — and yeah, I think it’s comforting to know that a lot of people who are way up didn’t always have it rosy 🙂

  • ima without too much grammar….thank you for being a blessing to my life

  • I absorbed every word in this post and agree 100%. I always say believe in your self and believe in your capabilities. I am currently waiting to do my driving test as scary as that is for me I am not letting it rule me or control me, if I fail then I just have to try again until I pass.
    Great post

    • That’s the spirit — for every failure, you have the option to give it one more try.
      And one more.
      Best of luck Anosa!

  • You always deliver…. Always on point!
    Keep on shining!

    • Thank you Tunji, always great to hear from you!

  • I like your article, it is never to late to win and never to late to keep trying, without failures we wouldn’t be able to celebrate the success! Failing sometimes helps you learn to do better the next time, so really there is no failure only learning experiences. One should never be afraid of failing because it prevents you from starting or doing something great!

    • So true, there is so much to learn from any failed attempt you experience.
      So much, if we can only focus on the bigger and main picture.

  • These are great reminders! Failure is never the end!

    • Nope, it never is, unless one chooses to make it so.
      Thanks for reading!

  • Good way to look life. When my birthday approaches, I get into active thinking about my past and present and future. These ways of thinking are so positive.

    • I know right?
      So do I, and it’s usually super helpful too 🙂

  • Teresa Kunberger

    Wow love this! I really needed a pep talk as I am trying to turn my life around and nothing is going right!

    • Well I hope this helped to a great extent.
      Take care, and thanks for reading!

  • I always think that every failure is always an opportunity for us to look in to other best choices we have in front of us as they teach you lessons that could shape our future to perfection. I agree that it is never too late to win in life and all you need is a positive attitude to keep going!

    • Yup, and like they say, the wrong attitude is like a flat tyre, it’s never going to take you anywhere.
      Thanks for reading!

  • Another great points you have there, Ima, and yes, I agree with you all the way! As Einstein said — I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work!

    • And that’s one of my favorite reminders — thank you Kitchie!

  • No experience is useless .We learn from both our success and failure.It’s important to try try and try again.Very inspiring.

  • Thank for your this post. I feel very inspired. Everyone needs to hear these words! 🙂

    • You’re very welcome — thank you for stopping by 🙂

  • Elizabeth O.

    This is what I needed to hear today! So many beautiful reminders to never give up on trying to reach your goal. Failures are just a bump in the road and we just have to learn to keep going.

    • Very well said, I’m glad you see that.
      Thank you for reading!

  • Hi

    Which autobiographies have you been reading so far?

    • Hey there
      Renowned authors from my country like Chinua Achebe and Chimamanda Adichie
      Then Arnold Schwarzenegger and a couple others, Zulhardy.

  • victoria

    What a beautiful post and a perfect message for me right now. Thanks for the Encouragement

    • You’re so very welcome, Victoria.
      I’m so glad it was encouraging to you!

  • Your articles are always very inspirational! ‘You don’t need every single person on your side.’ is a great reminder. I might sometimes feel this way. But you’re right.. And ofcourse number 5.. I live by that one. NEVER give up!!
    Just keep trying and eventually you’ll be successful. Great message.

    • Thank you so much, Carola.
      And you’re right, whatever you do, no matter how rough and crazy things get, never never think of giving up!

  • Thank you for this positive post, we love the way faced the 6 points. You have really inspired us. You are awesome 🙂

    • Aww, and thank you too for your kind words, I’m so glad you found it inspiring!

  • Yes! I’m successful because I fail. You will never be successful if you don’t fail!! It’s all about going out there are trying and learning! Ree love30

    • That’s the spirit!
      The more you fear failure, the more you pull yourself back from succeeding — it’s that simple!

  • All great tips but especially #6

    • Thank you Crystal, glad to know you think so!

  • Well Said. Quite an inspirational post. Thanks for lifting my spirits up

    • You’re very welcome
      Thanks for stopping by!

  • That is quite a list! Finding the real you is a long journey and seems that you are trying a lot. Keep on going!

  • I couldn’t agree more with everything you say. No growth without failure, you are in charge of all ! Very inspiring read 🙂

    • Thank you Klaudia, I’m glad you see my point here.