“The Paradoxical Commandments
People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.โย
โย Kent M. Keith,ย The Silent Revolution: Dynamic Leadership in the Student Council
Completely exhausted, I crawled into bed Tuesday night.
It had been a crazy day, but no way was I falling asleep before reminiscing about how it all went down.
And then as I did, I thought to myself: “humans scare me.”
Well, not all.
But a lot of humans scare me.
Too many people are, everyday, choosing to not be humane anymore.
We’ve given away so much that makes us human beings, and not some stagnant, goal-less plant.
I’m rambling, yeah?
I’d share the details.
So I had a Pantomime rehearsal session with a couple of my drama department members during the week.
It’s been forever since we had one of those, and so my body had forgotten how much work they could turn out to be.
After hours, I was sweaty, I was hot (two of my worse states — I hate sweat, it’s why I never participated in sports all through high school),I was hungry, and for some reason, (that I’m sure had to do with all of the kneeling, standing, rolling, going up and going down), my legs and knee-cap hurt.
So I sat back to relax after it was over hours later and I messaged a friend, who asked what I was doing, and then I got a:
“So you spend hours at home coming up with a choreography and a storyline all by yourself, most of those who said they were going to show up didn’t, and you choose to do this again, why?”
And all I could think of was:
I didn’t even know I had a massive cut on my knee which was why it was hurting until I got home and took off my jeans.
So right now, my leg is plopped up on the sofa as I write and I can’t do any hard rehearsal till Sunday.
What’s my point?
Lesser people are seeing it today, but some things are worth breaking yourself over.
Some things are worth “killing yourself over”.
Some things are worth your blood and your sweat and your tears and your energy and your resources — only your very best.
Too many people don’t understand that life isn’t only what you’re getting, it’s what you’re giving back.
It’s what mark you’re creating for yourself.
It’s what sacrifices you’re making.
It’s what you’re laying down.
It’s what you’re submitting to.
It’s what you’re fighting for.
A lot of people don’t quite get why I spend thousands a month on a WiFi subscription, sleep at 1, 2am often because I’m working (and not getting paid) and putting so much effort into what I’m doing.
Of course, I’d love to be making money or some other reward but it’s more about the fact that some things just deserve a 101 percent commitment from you.
But it’s tough to look at it this way.
It’s scary to put in that much and not have an assurance that something would come out of it.
It’s scary to be that vulnerable, that exposed, to be so out there.
But isn’t it also exhilirating?
And you know what, precious?
Like the amazing Martin Luther King Jr. said:
“You may be 38 years old, as I happen to be. And one day, some great opportunity stands before you and calls you to stand up for some great principle, some great issue, some great cause. And you refuse to do it because you are afraidโฆ. You refuse to do it because you want to live longerโฆ. Youโre afraid that you will lose your job, or you are afraid that you will be criticized or that you will lose your popularity, or youโre afraid that somebody will stab you, or shoot at you or bomb your house; so you refuse to take the stand.
Well, you may go on and live until you are 90, but youโre just as dead at 38 as you would be at 90. And the cessation of breathing in your life is but the belated announcement of an earlier death of the spirit.”
– Martin Luther King Jr.
I know, it’s not as easy it sounds, never — but that’s what makes life worth living — when there is something you can drop everything for.
And the thing is, we all know what this something represents for us, but we’re compromising them, we’re contemplating about them too much, we’re too scared, we’re too worried, we’re listening too much to society, to people, to everything but ourselves.
And so for those of us being human, who work when no one’s watching, who don’t need to be seen to do the things that need to be done, who give it their best or give it nothing at all,thank you.
You’re doing it right.
And remember that for every night you sleep for four hours because that blog post has to be ready, because that article, because that project, because that exam, it’s worth it.
Those scars are worth it.
Those tired eyes are worth it.
The body aches and the sore fingers and the long days are worth it.
They’re worth it because they tell us the story of a fighter, a victor, a conqueror, they tell us the story of one who is like art, of one who is tough, one who is music, one who is human down to every last cell.
It is worth it.
So this weekend, even though chances are, most people won’t be appreciative, wouldn’t understand, wouldn’t notice, wouldn’t see all your mighty efforts, and some might even attempt to take advantage, pour your heart and your soul into all that you do.
Show up ready to bring only your best, no matter what.
There would be moments you’d be overwhelmed with fear, fatigue, doubts, inertia.
There would be days you’d be angry at how much you’re being taken for granted, not respected enough, not regarded properly.
It’s perfectly normal.
Just do not let it consume you.
Don’t focus on that for too long.
Push yourself, every time.
Keep going at it anyway.
Give only the developed pieces of you to your universe — that is what you’re here for.
Stop selling yourself short already.
Be vulnerable. Be courageous enough to be all you need to be.
It is so worth it.
Did I make even the tiniest bit of sense?
If you think so, do me the favour of sharing this article to anyone who needs this reminder.
Oh and, let’s talk through the comments section — pretty please?
Deliciously Yours To Savour,
Ima | LemonsLemonade.com