For Those Days We Die For What We Live For

“The Paradoxical Commandments

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.
People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.โ€ย
โ€•ย Kent M. Keith,ย The Silent Revolution: Dynamic Leadership in the Student Council


Completely exhausted, I crawled into bed Tuesday night.
It had been a crazy day, but no way was I falling asleep before reminiscing about how it all went down.
And then as I did, I thought to myself: “humans scare me.”
Well, not all.
But a lot of humans scare me.
Too many people are, everyday, choosing to not be humane anymore.
We’ve given away so much that makes us human beings, and not some stagnant, goal-less plant.
I’m rambling, yeah?
I’d share the details.
So I had a Pantomime rehearsal session with a couple of my drama department members during the week.
It’s been forever since we had one of those, and so my body had forgotten how much work they could turn out to be.
After hours, I was sweaty, I was hot (two of my worse states — I hate sweat, it’s why I never participated in sports all through high school),I was hungry, and for some reason, (that I’m sure had to do with all of the kneeling, standing, rolling, going up and going down), my legs and knee-cap hurt.
So I sat back to relax after it was over hours later and I messaged a friend, who asked what I was doing, and then I got a:
“So you spend hours at home coming up with a choreography and a storyline all by yourself, most of those who said they were going to show up didn’t, and you choose to do this again, why?”
And all I could think of was:


I didn’t even know I had a massive cut on my knee which was why it was hurting until I got home and took off my jeans.
So right now, my leg is plopped up on the sofa as I write and I can’t do any hard rehearsal till Sunday.
What’s my point?
Lesser people are seeing it today, but some things are worth breaking yourself over.
Some things are worth “killing yourself over”.
Some things are worth your blood and your sweat and your tears and your energy and your resources — only your very best.
Too many people don’t understand that life isn’t only what you’re getting, it’s what you’re giving back.
It’s what mark you’re creating for yourself.
It’s what sacrifices you’re making.
It’s what you’re laying down.
It’s what you’re submitting to.
It’s what you’re fighting for.
Just because.

A lot of people don’t quite get why I spend thousands a month on a WiFi subscription, sleep at 1, 2am often because I’m working (and not getting paid) and putting so much effort into what I’m doing.
Of course, I’d love to be making money or some other reward but it’s more about the fact that some things just deserve a 101 percent commitment from you.

But it’s tough to look at it this way.
So tough.
It’s scary to put in that much and not have an assurance that something would come out of it.
It’s scary to be that vulnerable, that exposed, to be so out there.
But isn’t it also exhilirating?

And you know what, precious?

Like the amazing Martin Luther King Jr. said:


“You may be 38 years old, as I happen to be. And one day, some great opportunity stands before you and calls you to stand up for some great principle, some great issue, some great cause. And you refuse to do it because you are afraidโ€ฆ. You refuse to do it because you want to live longerโ€ฆ. Youโ€™re afraid that you will lose your job, or you are afraid that you will be criticized or that you will lose your popularity, or youโ€™re afraid that somebody will stab you, or shoot at you or bomb your house; so you refuse to take the stand.

Well, you may go on and live until you are 90, but youโ€™re just as dead at 38 as you would be at 90. And the cessation of breathing in your life is but the belated announcement of an earlier death of the spirit.”

– Martin Luther King Jr.

I know, it’s not as easy it sounds, never — but that’s what makes life worth living — when there is something you can drop everything for.

And the thing is, we all know what this something represents for us, but we’re compromising them, we’re contemplating about them too much, we’re too scared, we’re too worried, we’re listening too much to society, to people, to everything but ourselves.

And so for those of us being human, who work when no one’s watching, who don’t need to be seen to do the things that need to be done, who give it their best or give it nothing at all,thank you.
You’re doing it right.
And remember that for every night you sleep for four hours because that blog post has to be ready, because that article, because that project, because that exam, it’s worth it.
Those scars are worth it.
Those tired eyes are worth it.
The body aches and the sore fingers and the long days are worth it.
They’re worth it because they tell us the story of a fighter, a victor, a conqueror, they tell us the story of one who is like art, of one who is tough, one who is music, one who is human down to every last cell.


It is worth it.

So this weekend, even though chances are, most people won’t be appreciative, wouldn’t understand, wouldn’t notice, wouldn’t see all your mighty efforts, and some might even attempt to take advantage, pour your heart and your soul into all that you do.

Show up ready to bring only your best, no matter what.
There would be moments you’d be overwhelmed with fear, fatigue, doubts, inertia.
There would be days you’d be angry at how much you’re being taken for granted, not respected enough, not regarded properly.
It’s perfectly normal.
Just do not let it consume you.
Don’t focus on that for too long.
Push yourself, every time.
Keep going at it anyway.

Give only the developed pieces of you to your universe — that is what you’re here for.
Stop selling yourself short already.

Love harder.
Fight harder.
Work harder.
Perform harder.
Be vulnerable. Be courageous enough to be all you need to be.
Be human.

It is so worth it.
Did I make even the tiniest bit of sense?
If you think so, do me the favour of sharing this article to anyone who needs this reminder.
Oh and, let’s talk through the comments section — pretty please?


Deliciously Yours To Savour,
Ima |

More Juice?

  • Do what you love, We often get the people who don’t understand what we are doing, don’t watch tv anymore because we spend thousand of hours working on our site. people don’t get it but we keep plugging away

    • Exactly.
      I don’t expect people to understand any more, and I don’t even blame them either.
      It’s not their life.

      • I actually posted a quote on Instagram saying “Its okay to live a life others don’t understand”. It’s all good boo.

        • Hmm
          And that is so true.
          Thank you, Oyinkan ๐Ÿ™‚

  • As the saying goes, “Haters gonna hate.” Which is so true. So you gotta do you.

    I wrote something on a forum yesterday and got a barrage of negative comments. But it wasn’t personal or about it. It was just people taking the anonymity of the internet and saying things that they wouldn’t say to your face. So has life become.

    • So has life become indeed
      Cyber bullying is something I still cannot fully grasp.

  • Reminds me of the quote. “Find what you love. And let it kill you. Let it drain you of your all. Let it cling onto your back and weigh you down into eventual nothingness. Let it kill you and let it devour your remains. For all things will kill you, both slowly and fastly, but itโ€™s much better to be killed by a lover.”

    Something I think about often when I feel so exhausted at the end of the day from work.

    • Wow
      I’ve never heard this quote before but I think I just found my new favorite.
      Thank you for sharing, Divya!

  • Too many people are, everyday, choosing to not be humane anymore: beautiful phrase! Beautiful written article, and the quote of Martin Luther King Jr. is also very heartbreaking (in a good way).

    • I know right?
      He’s one of the few with truly poetic souls ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Ayoola Kolawole

    On a Sunday service, my Sunday school teacher educated us that we should do what we do as long as it’s right with God, and if people try to blame your righteousness, or accuse you for doing too much just ignore them and walk on your own path..
    I didn’t phrase it very well but still you should get my point

    • Hmm
      I do Kola
      And that’s so right
      Like a quote by Mother Theresa pointed out, the only validation we need comes from God ๐Ÿ™‚

  • I hear you! Blogging is so worth it to me. Some days are harder than others, but I love what I do.

    • ๐Ÿ™‚
      I’m not the only one — yay!

  • Humanity has been terrifying me lately for numerous reasons. You just do what’s most important to you and I’m sure you will succeed and the rest can suck it, for lack of a better term.

  • A great read…. and it’s good to see there are good hearted people out there who just want to do the right thing and to help others… and during a time like this, we so need this kind of thing…. regardless of background and beliefs, why can’t we all get along? lol

    • A question I wish I had an answer to ๐Ÿ˜€

  • Amazing quotes.

  • Omg. I totally understand where you’re coming from in this post. Ppl question my motives all the time. Thinking I’m wasting time doing meaningless activities. I Dont explain myself anymore. Instead i respond, “Just let me be great.”

    • Hehe
      “Just let me be great” (while you settle for your mediocre life) ๐Ÿ™‚

  • The only person who can love you that no one else can, is YOU. It doesn’t matter what other people say about you. As long as you accept and love yourself, you’re all good. ๐Ÿ™‚ Btw, awesome quotes!

    • Very well said!
      And thank you, Laura ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Very well said!
      And thank you, Laura ๐Ÿ™‚

  • In today’s world, with all of the media highlighting the bad, it is easy to lose sight of yhe good things. But always remember, there is more good than evil, we are never alone, and love trumps hate!

    • You are so right, Jessica — I see where you’re coming from.
      I also believe love triumphs hate at the end of the day, and good would always be stronger than evil.

  • There are more bloggers out there then what people think. Blogging can help encourage others and help the blogger release what might be on their mind.

    • Oh yes, millions of us ๐Ÿ™‚
      And it is such a worthy cause because of each person’s uniqueness.

  • Honey…..this beautiful post brought tears to my eyes and an explosion of joy in my heart. It came in a very timely manner. Going through something in my life right now that is definitely outside of the normal and something that pushes me to give my all regardless of what I get….I find me asking myself why I do so and the only thing I can say is….it’s not like me NOT to. Had to share this post to G+, twitter, pinterest, and facebook. So Good! Thanks for blessing me with this today.

    • Awwww ๐Ÿ™‚
      This totally made my day and it’s just 10am — thank you so much, Katrina!
      I’m so excited right now that this resonated really well to you and I sincerely wish you the very best of luck and plenty of strength for all your future endeavours, dear!
      Thank you for reading!

  • As a single parent, I don’t get much sleep. I’m tired. I’m exhausted. I’m trying to work full-time, care for my household and kids and then blog on top of that. I have so many goals though and am determined to reach them.

    • And for a momma that would obviously be a really good multitasker, I am so sure you will!

  • Oh wow – that quote from MLK Jr. about being dead in spirit at 38 – just wow! Very powerful!

  • Ive been blogging for 8 years and Ive seen it all! Best thing to do is keep moving forward! Yu can’t lose your focus with the garbage because thats exactly what they want. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Wow, eight years — you inspire me!
      Thanks for reading,Jasmine, and well done ๐Ÿ™‚

  • You are great with words. This was so inspiring!

  • I understand you and can relate to this! I guess we just need keep doing what we believe regardless of what other people think. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Yep, you just have to do you consistently.

  • Lovely poem. I totally agree, you have to stop selling yourself short. It’ s easy to compare yourself to others but it causes more harm than good.

    • So true.
      Every time we sell ourselves short to the world we fail to live up to our potentials and that’s heartbreaking.

  • Kyla

    I love that I’m not the only one that feels frustrated sometimes! I’m just coming out of a big funk and it’s hard sometimes to remember why I want to keep going! I’m glad I’m not alone!

    • Yeah, and I think that’s the part that makes it more bearable — no body is alone in this as humans ๐Ÿ™‚

  • zim

    Thanks for such encouraging words. I know too well how it feels like to have to stand up for something, and losing your popularity in the process. But, it matters not because I continued to sleep well at night.

    • Lol yes!
      Nothing ruins my night sleep anymore, and that makes me super proud ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Do what you love and be passionate about it. Whether others hate it or like it, or don’t understand it, that’s besides the point. You have only this one life so spend it being happy in all you do.

    • That’s so true.
      And anything you fail to do would ultimately be no one else’s fault but yours.

  • Show up and do your very best is often times all that you can do. You can only control your actions.

    • You are so right.
      Your best bet is to just do your thing and let everything else be.

  • A/Azeez

    I appreciate the consistency and run on ideas of the previous and present. That helps a lot with recollection and recreation. Well done!

    • Thank you,A/Azeez.
      So good to hear from you again ๐Ÿ™‚

  • I so agree there are many people that are so self-centered. I learned not to deal with them because they are not worth my energy and time LOL.

    • Lol
      They’re truly not.
      Thanks for reading ๐Ÿ™‚

  • TColeman

    Blogging is one of those things that I believe you truly have to be a blogger to understand. The appeal to me is so strong and I love what I do!

    • Exactly, and unfortunately, everyone doesn’t understand that feeling ๐Ÿ™‚

  • definitely worth it to do what you’re passionate about. hopefully you will get paid in due time.

    • Yup, definitely staying very hopeful ๐Ÿ™‚

  • It’s sad knowing some people go through life thinking they have to receive and never given. Humans can selfish sometimes but do what makes you happy Hun and don’t give up

    • Really sad.
      Thank you so much Anosa,I’m definitely going to keep going ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Love this! It really is important for us to put in our absolute best into things that we care about even if something no ones understands. If we love something, we should put our all into it, no matter what!

  • Such a beautiful post and I can relate myself with all the thoughts you have poured in here. I always love to stay myself no matter what others think as people are always going to find reasons to hurt others. Thanks for inspiring!

  • katrina gehman

    some great quotes. i try to do my best everyday and treat everyone the same as well.

    • That sounds pretty good — and thanks for reading too ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Elizabeth O.

    Our society is always inconsistent. This is why I’ve grown tired of doing what pleases people and just keep doing stuff that makes me and my loved one happy provided that I don’t hurt anyone in the process of course. Times have changed, it feels like we’re going backwards.

    • It feels more like we’re simply rotating in circles, and not in a specific pattern.
      It’s so crazy!

  • This was an amazing read! Like someone said before, it’s okay to live life that not all might not understand & that’s a pretty damn good quote to live by ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Exactly, it’s pretty okay — normal’s too boring anyways ๐Ÿ˜€
      Thanks for reading!

  • aziel morte

    What a great post, I know blogging how difficult is you had a hard time to write but I’m so glad that boggers still love they work.

    • Yeah, it’s plenty of work but when you love what you do, you just know you have to keep doing it.

  • lex

    You did well to put this up, at the end of the day, what your passion says about something tells more of the future of it all. we just have to keep keep and stay positive. a good sunday afternoon read if you ask me.

  • I would rather be a good human being and be judged for it than to not care at all. Once I become like the rest of the people, this world will just end up garnering more hatred.

    • Hmm
      Great way to look at it.
      For every good person is much more than two bad.
      Thank you for getting it.

  • What an amazing and inspiring post youโ€™ve written! Sometimes bad moments happen and unfortunately, there will always be haters, all we can do is just ignore them and find the way to move forward. We must always keep fighting! As Friedrich Nietzsche said ‘That which does not kill us makes us stronger’

    • One of my favorite quotes, and so true.
      Thanks for chipping that in ๐Ÿ™‚

  • This post is quite long but it was worth the read.

    Life is hard and people are so self centered…I do things because it is what I want to do and not just what society expects of me.

    Labyrinths of Lahrah

    • And that’s the way to go with it ๐Ÿ™‚
      Thank you so much for reading!

  • Inspiring post! The text from Kent Keith is awesome. It’s so true. We should follow our own heart and do what we believe is true! It doesn’t matter if other people understand. We should follow our hearts!

    • Exactly, so very well said.
      If we constantly keep considering the opinions of everyone else, we’d only limit ourselves too much!

  • Nancy G

    THIS! >>>Too many people donโ€™t understand that life isnโ€™t only what youโ€™re getting, itโ€™s what youโ€™re giving back.<<<
    So true! I love how passionate you are about what you do. I believe in the law of sowing and reaping. What we give, we receive 100% fold. May not always be monetary, but you already said it so well. Somethings are WORTH it!

    • That’s so true — you’d always get back what you give at some point in your life, always.
      Thank you so much,Nancy G!

  • My Teen Guide

    I’m really glad that I can do what I love and if you do your passion you will never feel tired every time you do it.

    • Very well said.
      If you love what you do, it’s easier to do it ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Kitchie

    I am with you from the first word til the last! I was a people pleaser for so long but as I grow older, and hopefully wiser, I am loving myself more…

    Anyway, hope knees are feeling better now, dear…

    • I think growing up sure helps you see some things more clearly.
      I’m much better now, thank you!

  • The world is becoming a scary place so many people i just dont understand anymore, i definitely agree its all about what they can get rather than what they can give! So much so that its become not normal to want to give back and normal to want an easy life. This is a great post definitely sharing ๐Ÿ™‚ thank you.

    • You are so right Marie.
      And thank you for reading, glad you liked it ๐Ÿ™‚

  • You are right, some people forget to be humans but I believe that it’s not their fault. It’s the fault of the system, the fact that we run for earning money in order to live a decent life. And in our chase we forget about others and only think about us.

    • So much truth in this — it’s a race now unfortunately and too many people are getting caught up in it.

  • This was so beautifully written. I am a firm believer that in order to love someone else or let them love you, you must first love yourself!

    • Thank you Roxy,and that’s so correct.
      You can’t love right if you don’t love yourself first anyway.

  • Well I really believe that even though people do bad things to us, we should still be the better person. Karma goes a long way.

    • Lol, it’s why I’m hardly ever bothered by unfair treatment unlike before — it goes a pretty long way!

  • blair villanueva

    When you got haters, then it means you are getting noticed and now you are famous! Keep on doing what you love and don’t mind others.

    • Very well said.
      Like they say, they’re just confused fans ๐Ÿ˜€

  • Nifesimi

    I’m now my best friend…I careless bout what you think lol…good post Ima

  • Nicely written! Life is pretty weird, but I guess it’s up to us what we’ll do or not ๐Ÿ™‚ We should use our days in the best way we can ๐Ÿ˜‰

    • Very well said, we still have that control.
      Thanks for reading!