Eight Things You Don’t See When You’re Stressed, Overwhelmed Or Burnt Out

My weekend was ugh.
 
I cannot seem to think of a better way of describing how it went.
I had so much to do and a lot of unanticipated turnouts took place.
I was stressed, I was tired, I was ugghh.
And so I spent most of it asleep or feeding on my favourite junk foods (more of that gist below πŸ™‚ )
However, as always, I stay on the lookout for lesson points in my daily life, afterall like they say, every disappointment is a blessing.
Unfortunately I wasn’t the only one who didn’t have a fantastic weekend and so I decided to share some of my own tips that I hope help any one the next time you have one of those no-good, terrible, horrible, bad day(or weekend!)

 
 
1. There is nothing a good bath and a great shut-eye time doesn’t solve to a good extent.
Trust me on this.
Yes, it doesn’t make it all go away, but it helps a lot.
Plus, for me, a good bowl of ice-cream and plenty of chocolate included.
I ate so much of it this weekend I’m a bit worried.
But again, not really.
I almost never take anything sugary on a normal day so when I do, the sugar rush does wonders for me personally.
I instantly feel much better.
So sometimes, you should consider starting from spoiling yourself a bit.
Sleep off a bit of that pent-up pressure.
Eat your favorite comfort food.
And maybe some more sugar.
Soak up under a steaming hot shower (again, personally. Let’s not make LemonsLemonade the cause of burnt skins.Take care!)
You deserve it.
The “feel-good” feeling, that is.
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2. Believe it or not, you have the power to break free from all negative energies and everything causing you anxiety and pressure and discomfort and stress.
You have the power.
And it all starts with the mind.
Coming to the place of understanding that you can choose to declutter your head of all that’s stressing you and get the serenity you deserve is where it all begins.
The power resides in you.
No job, no person, no circumstance, nothing, can take that away without you letting them.
 
3. You’d want to crawl under your duvet and escape from the world.
That’s okay.
Just make sure you get back up and handle things.
Talk about it. Face it. Deal with it.
The longer you avoid it,the longer it stays a problem.
If it’s workload, take a break for a specific amount of time, come back to it, finish it up, and be done with it completely.
If it’s a misunderstanding, don’t “give it time to sort itself out.”
Don’t.
Don’t wait for someone else to make a move.
Take the first step and get it out of the way.
 
4.You’d think you need to “de-stress” with social media. You do not.
You do not, I tell you.
Facebook has a way of showing you the ones who didn’t respond to your text but can uploadΒ  dozens of photos scattered in your timeline at the wrong time.
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Yes. Personal experience again.
I know — contacting that awesome friend could be pretty helpful.
But put a call through to them instead.
FaceTime or Skype.
Get out and go see someone.
Invite someone over.
Opt for something authentic instead.
 
5. The less people in your business,the better for you.
I’m not sure I’ve ever understood this properly before this weekend.
You will crave alot of understanding and support and sympathy and help from others around you, as you will be utterly convinced you need and deserve it.
Just make sure you’re careful with that.
Too many people, too many pieces of advice.
Too many “Try this — no, do it this way.”
You don’t need that.
You’d think you do but things get more complicated for you that way.
 
6. Now is the time to think before you speak, listen before you respond, and not to take everything too seriously or too personally.
Because most often that not, at this time, you’d misinterpret plenty, exaggerate a lot and your emotions would be all over the place.
As much as there is an imbalance, you can still successfully keep yourself under control.
All of it would pass, so don’t go worsening situations because of how you’re feeling right now.
If you need to stay away from people, do that.
If you’re in a bad mood, tell as many people as you can that you could be disturbed by that you do not want to be disturbed.
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They’d appreciate the warning.
 
7. Picking up a pastime or something that you haven’t done in a while could be a great distraction.
For me, that’s reading old conversations, remembering good old days and laughing at how I could possibly have, at one time, always typed what’s up, as “xup”, and alright as “awrit” and you too “u 2”, and three years later, I hate abbreviations and never use them.
Sometimes, it’s going through old photographs.
Or reading my childhood journal.
This weekend, I stumbled on an article, which was my very first published story in a magazine, when I was 13, and that was pretty cute seeing it again.
Find a distraction. Journey back a bit. Pick up something that relaxes you. Yoga. Exercise. Prayers. Meditation.
Whichever works for you.
 
8. It’s dangerous and risky to make one common mistake.
And that’s going:
“Oh well, I’d just wait for better days ahead.”
I used to do this alot on really bad days.
Don’t.
Don’t wait for Christmas, don’t wait for your birthday, don’t wait for when you finally get a vacation.
Don’t wish your days away.
Make right now work. Get up and do something about how you’re feeling.
Take control already — it’s your life.
Live it, now.

 
Soo let’s talk: How do you handle those really awful days?
How do you subside the stress, when does it all go away?
I’d love to hear your tips and tricks — one can never have more than enough,yeah?

 
Happy new week, people — retain your power, and trust that you can handle whatever this week flings at you!

More Juice?

  • My go to solutions are definitely a soak in the bath, a good book and a good night sleep. If I’m tired, I lose perspective and small things that are not going right seem huge. Great post.

    • Exactly, those are the times we find it super easy to make a massive deal out of everything.
      Best to just disconnect from it all first.
      Thank you for reading!

  • Yes!! Such good thoughts- especially about disconnecting from social media.

    • Thank you Aimee!
      Glad you agree with me πŸ™‚

  • I love everything about this. You are so right- we do have more power to reduce our own stress if we just take a little control and get to it. I destress not by avoiding social media, but by posting a lot of random funny things I think of (I like to make people laugh) and make sure that I don’t care about how many people “Like” it. I also took this weekend’s stress as a chance to spend a lot of time cooking & canning with the radio cranked up. I was dancing around with the blinds open and not caring if the neighbors saw me or not.
    Love this post!!
    *Hugs*

    • Lol aww,that sounds adorable πŸ˜€
      Definitely a great way of “de-stressing”
      Thank you so much, Amy Lyon!

  • What a great post lovely! Thanks I totally agree that we all go through those rough times and and but knowing how to deal with them is the key! For me I love unwinding with annive Bach and trying to get relaxing sleep as Imuch as I can, also going for a walk helps me but I also for some reason find that doing the dishes helps me a lot! Heheh hope you feel better now! X

    • Lol, doing the dishes, that’s a new one!
      I’m always doing the dishes, on the awesome and on the “suckish” days so I’ve never really noticed πŸ˜€

  • These are so true! I especially like #5. Friends are great, but they don’t always have your best interest at heart and often just tell you want you want to hear.

    • That’s true, at the end of the day, you need to remember that it’s your life, and you own it!

  • A detox, or wonderful smelling bath can do a world of good!

  • Those are great tips! I’m personally a big fan of getting lost in a book or binge watching my favorite shows on Netflix as a way to relax!

    • Good for you Amelie, and thanks for reading mine!

  • Korede Abiodun

    This is a very wonderful post.
    Great work IMA

  • These are great tips! I usually go out for some air or a walk, take a break to re-group.

    One Awesome Momma

  • I’m sorry you had a crappy weekend. You de-stress list sounds great. Not going on social media really helps me. I have to unplug sometimes.

    • Thank you, Cori!
      And yeah, unplugging from social medias is super important!

  • I’m glad you turned the ugh from your week into sharing something very positive. We all need these reminders sometimes. My favorite is actually going out to meet a friend. I find it helps a lot as we tend to forget they’re not just available when we tweet, text, or message them on fb. πŸ™‚

    • Thank you, and you’re so correct!
      I made out time to hang with two girlfriends of mine today,and I’ve been spending less time online like I planned (which leads to tons of notifications and pending workloads, but still), it was absolutely wonderful, and I really needed it πŸ™‚

  • I really like this list. For me, many of these things are hard to remember when I’m already anxious and stressed. So a reminder is always a good thing.

    • Yeah.
      It’s hard to remember at those times but keeping in mind that those days will not always be there is a great start.

  • lex

    getting stressed and burnt out, take alot from us that we can actually get back from it. this post is true , i know a few people may disagree with it but its just the very real deal.

    • Aww,thank you Lex.
      And I do hope more people agree!

  • My methods are the exact same: hot bath, ice cream, & sleep! I also pray and try to remember that whatever is stressing me isn’t going to last forever.

    • Lool, they truly won’t last forever, nothing will!

  • For me, I reach out for a glass of water to calm my nerves even if I’m not thirsty and then force myself to smile. I also look for a fun way to distract myself just a bit and then maybe take a nap. When I wake up, I feel more refreshed and perhaps deal with whatever has caused that stress.

    • Sleep after a good shower is the ultimate!

  • You know whenever I feel ugh I swear by a long hother soak in the bath with a great movie on the up ad to switch the brain off to and then straight to bed! (After having something very cheesy). Everything is 10 times worse when you’re tired and grumpy. A good night’s sleep always does the world of good! Ree love30

    • I agree with all of these things, they help so much!
      Thank you for reading πŸ™‚

  • I agree with number five. There is a reason why I am vague in my blog and any other social media. It makes readers hungry for more. But readers dont get more. why? Becuase I share what I want to share. Like you said the less people in our buisiness the better.

    • Yup,the less the better — every time!
      Thank you for stopping by!

  • I handle awful days by stuffing my face with chocolate. It helps.

  • Nifesimi

    Social media adds salt to my wounds when I’m down…I rather just play games or sing with my crazy voice cause that makes me laugh so I’m happy again lol…great post ma’am

  • I needed to read this I need some of these tips especially with all that is going in my family. Thanks so much for sharing these.

  • Jenni Petrey

    Completely agree with your list, it is very hard to think clearly when things aren’t going the right way. I decided earlier this year that I wanted to rediscover past hobbies that I let fall to the side as life got too busy. They have been great distractions!

    • Exactly, they can be such helpful distractions, especially when you choose to put your heart and soul into it!

  • De-cluttering the mind is for sure something everyone can do! I also love a nice warm bath (just began to enjoy)! Thanks for these great ideas!

    • And I hope you keep enjoying them — thanks for reading!

  • Darina

    This is great, thanks for sharing this great advice!

    • You’re very welcome Darina πŸ™‚

  • These are some pretty great tips, I personally always find calm in a hot soak in the tub and some sleep. I also like to take long walks to clear my mind to deal with anything that needs addressing! Don’t let things pile up if I can help it

    • I agree with all of this, especially not letting things pile up or drag on unnecessarily as long as I can help it.

  • what a great article!

  • Yes, you are spot on! And I completely agree about the good bath — my life is pretty stressful right now, but taking the time to take a hot bath at night is SO helpful for me!

    • I know right
      It does wonders for me too πŸ˜€

  • You always write such fantastic and helpful posts! Singing loudly and watching my favourite comic youtubers with my Husbans is my favourite way to de-stress πŸ™‚

    • Those sound like really calming and fun ways — I scream out into my pillow when I’m really stressed!
      Lol
      And thank you for the kind words πŸ™‚

  • So true. Its hard to see the good in life when you’re overwhelmed.

    • Yeah, but we have the power to handle those overwhelming moments too!

  • I feel like #5 is key: I tend to seek advice from others when I’m stuck or trying to make a tough decision but sometimes we have to just trust our intuition instead.

    • Yeah, it’s so easy to crave the opinions of others and too many times, value it over your own.

  • We’ve learned over at the Dollhouse to 1) Do some Yoga and breathing activities 2) Yes to the nice hot bath and MOST IMPORTANT 3) GO TO SLEEP. A good rest really helps change perspective. Keep sharing your sparkle!

    • All really great tips.
      Thank you πŸ™‚

  • Great post! We really are in control and have so much power. Love this so much, thanks for the reminders.

    • You’re very welcome
      Thank you Erin!

  • Sorry to hear that you had an awful weekend. It happens and the way I handle it is by keeping myself busy. This helps keeps my mind on current thoughts or the other extreme is by doing a mindful meditating. It helps me de-stress. This is such a good read. Great post as always, Ima! Love it

    • Thank you so much Sharon, glad you did πŸ™‚

  • SUCH AN EPIC POST!!! i loved readin this, related to every sentence. hahahah yes facebook and its random postings can be so distracting.
    Totally agree about having too many people around point, I tend to only confide and vent to my closest friends which are few and far between which works just well because i’ve narrowed it to the peeps that truly have unbelievable advice to share. plus they listen first. its so hard to find peeps like that. most times the other person just wants to chime in with their views and tips….

    • I know right?
      And that never helps, I learnt that the hard way!

  • CourtneyLynne

    So any great ideas!!! For me getting lost in a great book or even reading my favorite fashion magazines can do the trick!

    • That sounds really neat
      I find it really hard to read when I’m down.

  • Everything you said is so true. It is all about perspective. Dope stuff.

  • R U S S

    This sure is inspiring! I have been going through a lot of tough stuff lately and it’s like a breath of fresh air to come across your post. Thank you for reminding that disappointments should still be seen as blessings. I like how you stressed about not waiting for Christmas or your birthday. We all have to live in the now and make each moment, each day count.

    • Yeah, that’s something I recently realized myself.
      Every day is important and everyday deserves the best version of you.

  • So true! I can’t see straight when I am stressed out and overwhelmed. In the past year or so I have been working non stop and feel like I need a vacay. I haven’t had a real vacation in a loooong time! All I want is to have time to read a book, watch a couple of movies and get more sleep.

    • And you should definitely make out the time — I hope you do πŸ™‚
      Thanks for reading!

  • Yes! Thesed are all so true. I’m totally the ‘crawl under the duvet’ girl. It’s so easy for me to want to hide in my safe place but I have a family to take care of and need to fight through it! Thanks for this great post.

  • definitely know the feeling of being stressed out and overwhelmed. I’m slowly learning to just step back, take a breath and maybe even walk away for a little bit to clear my head.

    • Yup, taking walks can be a great way to clear your head.

  • Being in silence/solitude is my way of destressing. Thanks for sharing these eye-openers (pun intended).

  • When you’re feeling stressed, you normally see the negative side of things instead of thinking about the good ones. I think these are pretty accurate.

    • Thank you Carol, I’m glad you agree with me πŸ™‚

  • Killy

    Wow,this is amazing, and i ain’t lying about that, actually this week and last week was too stressful for me, readingthw blog now, has brighten up my day, i love no 2,3 and 4 and you are very correct about no 4, during my stressful week i disconnected from social media

    • Yup, you did, and I missed you so much πŸ™‚
      Thank you so much Killy,means a lot!

  • Elizabeth O.

    I love music especially when I’m stressed out. I try to avoid food because I’m an emotional eater, although ice cream is an exception. Lol. Stress and awful days are bumps on the road and they should stay that way, when you start dwelling on those days, you’ll just feel stuck in the end.

    • Yeah, music is super helpful for me — the right kind that is!
      And remembering those days pass is important πŸ™‚

  • Great post. I always listen to music when I’m really stressed. And go waking around. It makes me restless and unable to focus. A totally agree, a warm bath is always a good idea!

    • Great practices, and yeah, I think a hot bath is at the top of the list for me, it works too well πŸ™‚

  • Great tips! Unplugging and a warm bath are really my essentials in de-stressing. If I get really stressed out, I would question myself, “would it still matter to me 5 years from now?” If it won’t, I try to let it go. Easier said than done though πŸ™‚

    • Easier said than done, true, but that’s a great way to look at it.
      No matter how big these things look, truth of the matter remains that they won’t last forever.
      They can’t possibly.

  • Indrani

    You sound so wise! πŸ™‚ I am glad I chose this to read today. πŸ™‚
    It is our own life so no point expecting others to help. We better help ourselves out.

    • Aww, thank you so much.
      And you’re right — it’s your life, and you have to always remember that!

  • blair villanueva

    Whenever I feel stressed, I choose to sleep (and hybernate) then eat. And also lots of water and orange juices

    • Yup, that helps me a lot too, especially going to sleep and then something sweet πŸ™‚

  • I can totally relate on this! And now that I’m having a bad day, I just want to have a bowl of ice cream while watching anime.

    • Go ahead if you can, it’ll do wonders πŸ™‚