Five Signs You Need To Embarrass Yourself Some More

…Everyone does this occasionally, and you shouldn’t feel too upset about it unless it happens quite often, such as three times a day, in which case you must simply get used to it. Remember, other people like you as well or better for it, because it makes them feel so superior; so you’ve spread a little sunshine. And at the very least, you’ve served as a bad example.

― Peg Bracken, The I Hate to Housekeep Book

 
 
 

I have a confession.

And I’m about to tell literally anybody.

(Ugh. Why do I love telling stories?)

Oh well.

So, this is it:

I have zero sense of humour.

Well, no sense of humour towards anything that has to do with me.

Don’t go there.

Just so you know, I love jokes, and there is nobody I’ve ever come across that knows me really well who wouldn’t include “funny” as one of my first three qualities if you ask them to tell you who Ima is.

Just do not attempt to turn it around on me.

Don’t try playing with me about my pimples, my skin burn (I’ve had one for months now close to one of my eyes that’s finally clearing up slowly),my somewhat hairy nature, or any of my insecurities.

Don’t joke about my hobbies, my taste, my preferences.

Do.Not.

Do not make fun about me.

Do not make fun over me.

Do not let me even suspect you’re attempting that.

Whether you’re kidding or whether you’re not, 99.9% of the time, I’m not laughing.

I’m not smiling. 

It:s not funny. 

This would be my upset face as I keep all the anger in, and you will see your wrong in it.


 
 

One of the main reasons I have a personal Instagram account is to follow the funniest accounts.

As long as I’m not part of their memes.

I know. I sound weird.

It’s something I battled with for so long, and it definitely was not an easy one.

What changed?

And has everything changed?

For the last question, nope, everything hasn’t changed. I don’t bother about my physical appearance so much anymore but I might get offended if a really close friend joked about something serious, but that’s about it.

But what brought about this change?

I got to a point in my life that I sat back and realized how I was practically living my life, waiting to be offended.

I was!

I picked offenses in the little things and held onto it for so long.

I was holding myself back. I was beating myself up.

And it was turning into a serious problem for me.

I started to notice a lot of signs that this wasn’t a problem I could ignore forever and here are five major ones that could be showing you that you just might need to get yourself in more uncomfortable situations and be okay with it:
 
 
1. You pick your words a little too carefully

Am I the only one that does that little dance with the thumb when you’re trying to think of a way to put your words that won’t be too harsh/too much/too confusing when texting?

I do that dance a lot.

Same with real life.

I think too hard about what to say, rather than saying it.

What if it sounds dumb when I hear it?

What if I’m totally wrong and I talk with so much confidence now — that would only make it more embarrassing!

I’m not a believer in hoarding my feelings anymore, I’m not sure why.

If I’m upset, if I’m confused, if I’m paranoid, if I have something to say, I’d have a really hard time not telling you.

I don’t care if I mistook you and I’ve choosen to stop caring that I really hate arguments.

Talk already. Say something out of point. Talk.

Don’t think over it too much. Feel those feelings and let them out.

Stop stuttering. Stop repeating your lines. Talk.
 
2. Your daily routine has turned boring.

I remember when the idea popped into my head to start a blog.

Me?

Shy, self-conscious, timid, private, me?

What would people say? What would my friends think of me? Everybody already owns a blog, people would just think I’m copying.

Or I’m trying to make money off them.

Somehow, I took that step.

Guess what?

Yes, some people didn’t understand what I was doing, I actually texted a cousin of mine that I now blog and got a “lol” the first time.

I was so scared to tell more people.

People did tell me “so you want to blog too?”

Somehow, I kept taking that step.

Guys, normal’s boring.

Serious’s boring.

Get out of your comfort zone and add color to your life.
 
3. You’re a perfectionist, and so everything is a “big deal”.

Everything is “pretty serious.”

From something as minute as never taking a casual selfie from a new angle or from this: 

Because like whaat?

Do you know how big heads would come out?

Or never being able to dance in public — everyone would be looking!

You never try to go down that career line, it’s for the pretty ones only. That other one is less risky. 

Try out something and it’s not working? Pull out and pretend it doesn’t exist.

Take up a task and have it all fall apart? Never forgive yourself.

Be a President’s wife, be a pauper’s uneducated child, tongues would wag, mouths will laugh — you’re going to need to stop caring. 
 
4. You’re always sorry.

I used to apologize a lot.

I’m wrong? I’m soorrryyy.

You’re wrong? I’m sorry. Can we get this over with and move on now?

“Your hair looks all over the place, why?”

“Oh wow, I’m so sorry, I don’t know why, is it that bad? Can I used your cap?”

“Your pimples are back?”

“Is it that obvious? Ugh, I dunno why, I just hate it, what do you think I should do..”

Just stop.

Stop. Yes, stop.

This used to be me. Does this sound like you?

One day, I just had to tell myself to stop.

You’re imperfect. 

Embrace that. Know that. Love that. Accept that. It’s never going to change.
 
5. Every embarrassment literally almost feels like death.

You could crawl up in a hole and stay there for the rest of your life if you could.

You won’t stop replaying the events over and over and over.

You start to think of all the things you could have done differently.

Do something embarrassing again though — and it starts to feel less painful. 

Take another risk again, and you get bolder to take one more. 

I’d tell you: every once in a while, things would go out of hand, and you would end up looking stupid, either to yourself or someone.

We’re humans, and that’s how we’d always be.

It’s okay.

Don’t let anyone say otherwise.
 
And so how do you start to work on this?

Two simple words to start from:

Loosen up. 
Relax.

Deep breath, and relax.

Now GO!

Say what needs to be said, do what needs to be done, express yourself.

In every area. 

In every way, at all times, most especially when you don’t feel like it.

Talk. Object. Interrupt. Refuse. Demand. Louder. Dance. Sing. Model. Pout. Stand tall. Shake it off.

Do you. Unapologetically.

 
 
Did I make any sense to you?

Have you been here too or am I the only one?

Let’s talk through the comments section.

Pretty please?
 
And if you liked this, please do me the huge favour of sharing with anyone you think needs this too.
(And a mega huge thank you to my amazing friends who let me use their photos here, from my awesome buddy who takes the craziest photos all with his not-an-iPhone Andriod, OC, my best friend Doris, who I used twice, and my sweetheart Tara, in the last picture — thank you for the permission to use your photos! 

All rights reserved .

Their Instagram pages would be linked to on LemonsLemonade’s account if you’re curious!)

 
Happy weekend, loves.

Go crazy, the good kind — or not!
 

Deliciously Yours To Savour,

Ima | LemonsLemonade.com.

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  • I think everyone does embarrassing things sometimes and gets embarrassed. It’s part of life. Rather than beating myself up about it, I tend to just laugh at myself and keep it moving. There are way more important things to worry about than being embarrassed. Nobody is perfect and if we were…How boring would that be.

    • That’s how I look at it now, it would be super boring, whether we believe it or not.
      Thanks for reading!

  • blair villanueva

    I always live with this principle of “no one can make myself embarass without my consent.”

    • And that’s a great way to look at it!
      🙂

  • I am reading this… thinking how it sounds like me!! loved this post!

  • Life does have its share of embarrassing moments for everyone. It feels real bad at that moment, but the moment passes on and one can look back without feeling too hurt.

    • Yeah, and that’s one comforting thought for me now — time helps a lot of things.

  • Lara

    nice piece mami

  • It takes courage to share something like this too 🙂 But you’re not the only one. I am an introvert, and a pretty shy person who only had like two friends just three years ago. But then something changed. You start by accepting yourself. That the first and biggest step in your change. Then you get out of your comfort zone, step by step, try something new etc. The point is, we all live the lives we choose. No one can hurt you unless you let them, you are the only one that can shape your destiny. Life won’t be boring, if you don’t let it. As simple as that 🙂 xo

    • Aww,you made such valid points.
      And yup, it all starts from self – validation.
      You just have to accept all that you are.
      Thank you Filipa!

  • I used to apologize a lot too.

    And I do embarrass myself a lot. I’m socially awkward. I say the weirdest things.

  • As a teacher, I feel like it’s part of my job description to embarrass myself daily. It actually teaches my kids that it’s OK to slip up. It’s okay to do something wrong or embarrassing and then bounce back!

    • Aww, that sounds so good.
      And yes,it’s human, it’s normal and it’s very much okay!

  • I guess I’m a #3 on your list — a bit of a perfectionist — in that I want everything to be in its place (words, too). I guess I need to relax a bit — life isn’t perfect! Good for you!

    • Yeah, it’s so easy to get caught up with it to be candid,but sometimes we just have to take things easy.

  • I like the reasons you listed! I’m too much of a perfectionist and I also think far too long (at times) prior to speaking. Gotta get past that!
    xoxo, erin | sandsunandmessybuns.com

    • I hope you can Erin, I really do 🙂

  • The thumb-dance, THAT’S what it’s called! I tend to do the Thumb-Tango when I’m thinking over text is well. Thanks for giving it a name!

    • Lol I thought it was just me!
      Thank you for stopping by,Meg Kerns!

  • I love it! You made such good points.

  • I think embarrassment helps us grow stronger. I have been embarrassed and at the time it doesn’t feel right, but I then learn from the incident. I love memes. They do make me laugh.

    • Lol, so do I — nowadays I do a special data bundle plan just for Instagram 😀
      Thanks for reading!

  • I think one of the most important things that I’ve learned to do is laugh at myself. Sometimes it’s not easy, but it’s necessary.

    • I know right?
      It’s hard, but it’s super important!

  • You’re totally making sense Ima. For some reason I always find myself in cringe worthy and embarrassing situations so I’m somewhat used to them now. I also understand how you feel when you worry about how to say something,happens to me too. Beautiful post as usual Ima. xx

    cocobellablog.com

    • So good to hear this is relatable to others
      Thank you so much Demi!

  • I always embarrass myself haha and I don’t care. It’s one of the reasons I started my blog. Just to show every side. I post regularly about embarrassing moments I have at comic cons. And I think it’s fun. It makes life unpredictable and surprising. It’s nice if you can laugh about yourself. Makes things easier!

  • Bee

    I need to work on #4 I really do over apologise sometimes it’s upsetting….lol

    • Lol I know right
      I used to be super guilty of that one time
      It was serious 😀

  • I don’t think I have to worry about this, I embarrass myself all too often!

    • Lol and you sound so okay with it — good for you 😀

  • Yes, situations and moments can be quite embarrassing sometimes.
    But then it is best to see the humor side and get over it. 🙂

    • Exactly — don’t look at everything too seriously!

  • I can relate. Haha Any form of laughter on me meant death. Haha. I’m better now. Gotten used to it thinking it won’t last and that people get laughed at once in their lives. 🙂

    • Lol true
      Best to get used to it, really 😀

  • This is so good! I hear what you are saying and often the same in many ways… it’s so difficult to laugh at myself sometimes or embarrass myself!

    • Lol very hard no doubt
      But very helpful in the long run.

  • What a great post! As a Norwegian I have always taken myself so seriously and it is quite common in Norway to care what everyone thinks of you which is scary because it affect your self-confidence so much.

    Thank you for sharing.

    • Yeah, it really does affect one’s confidence.
      Well I hope this helps to an extent,Vibeke, thank you for reading 🙂

  • This post is quite thought provoking! Time for some self introspection!

  • Beautiful post, the message is spot on and I love the cute pics your involved.
    Ima, I can’t stop loving you dearie.
    I am waiting for the next post.

  • Nifesimi

    Really this is me…apology is so much!….I’m so shy and hate to be embarrassed…but with this it’s going to be a new me…thanks Ima really never wanted to stop reading this post(true)!

    • Aww thank you, Nife Darling
      You have zero idea how excited I get when I see a comment from you — thank you for reading and I hope I keep helping 🙂

  • Adeola Naomi

    I always tell myself and everyone around me to just do them! You don’t owe anyone any apologies and it is your life.

    http://www.distinguisheddiva.com/2016/11/on-beauty-by-zadie-smith.html

    • Exactly, you first like I like to put it 🙂

  • Love the plot of the article….its great…great work