Ten Signs You’re Doing Better Than You Think

| “If you try anything, if you try to lose weight, or to improve yourself, or to love, or to make the world a better place, you have already achieved something wonderful, before you even begin. Forget failure. If things don’t work out the way you want, hold your head up high and be proud. And try again. And again. And again!” |
― Sarah Dessen, Keeping the Moon


So a few weeks back, I put together an article about what to do when everybody you know is literally doing better than you. , which gave me my highest page view the day it got published (thank you for loving it so much — I hope it’s still helping someone!)
As a new blogger (a little over two months), that’s always a big deal.
Plus, that also ascertained to me that a lot of us have at some point, given into comparing.
(If you missed that article, It’s over here.)
And so, I decided to do a follow-up article related to that.
Because it’s so easy for us to see who’s at the top of the ladder and who’s way below (most times, we like to believe this is our residence), we don’t see how far we’ve actually come!

So, while I won’t tell you you’re winning if you’ve moved from a C student to an A student, or from one apartment to a penthouse, here are ten other really relevant signs we underplay that actually show how much we’ve grown ourselves of late:

1. You’re taking responsibilities for actions more.


If this doesn’t show your level of maturity and empathy, then I’m not sure what will.
Everyone of us would need to get the place of taking blames, accepting our wrongs, understanding we could have done better, and doing something about it.
It’s seeing that there is a better version of you, and wanting to let it loose.
When you learn this, life instantly starts to work better for you.

2. You’re more of an listener/observer than a talker/”conclusion-jumper” now.
There is such a huge benefit attached to when you learn to calm down, relax, and keep an open mind.
Once you see that you need to know to grow, you don’t empty yourself more than you fill up.
You’d just refuse to!
That’s what differentiates these two personalities.
The latter character demands everything, really.
While the other has learnt how to go easy,think before speaking and remain patient even when they are talked over.
Such people hear the feeling and hear the words.
Like someone said, listeners see the communication beyond the communication, the understanding beyond the judgement. They want to know more.
It’s training, and it’s practice, but it sure shows strength once it starts to manifest.

3. You’re doing something you love.
Too many people never find the courage or the time or the fire to do something they enjoy.
It’s why too many people aren’t happy with their jobs, it’s why their priorities aren’t set right, it’s why there’s anxiety, there’s silly competition , there’s depression — people are no longer following what they love.
Because, money is more important, they’d say. Because, everyone would laugh at you. Because nobody is supportive. Because, you can’t eat your cake and have it in life.
You’re one of the lucky few if you’re on the path to living your dreams or already are. It doesn’t matter if you’re just started and things are rocky or you’re already there. It’s the journey that grows us, remember that.
And that journey? It takes massive guts.

4. You’ve gotten clearer perspectives of what you want from life — or you’ve started to search for it.
“What your purpose — what do you believe your part in life is?”
I’ve stopped being surprised that too many people still cannot give a definite answer to this.
Once you can, you approach life much differently.
Now, too many people believe the answer to this has to be something crazily massive like, “I want to be the first human to build an estate on Jupiter!”
Sometimes, it could be something like, “I want to serve. I want to go through life serving people; being a source of strength, inspiration, putting their needs first, pushing them.”
If you have an idea or two about what you’re here for, trust me when I say you’re doing pretty well.

5. You’ve stopped being so embarrassed about embarrassing yourself.


Overly confident people are so attractive. They get to do so much!
Don’t you think so too?
Until you learn to have no shame (and yes, literally) you’re holding yourself back.
You’re holding yourself back plenty.
An ego is such a crafty road-block that you’d think it’s doing you some good.
Once you’ve learnt it’s actually doing such an awesome job holding you back, everything changes.
You take more risks. You learn to just laugh at your own self when you fall. You do more awesome things.

6. Slower to anger, quicker to amend.
Like an article I once read said, anyone who doesn’t get angry easily has learnt to develop a very slow fuse.
Once you turn that current down a notch and refrain from hurling out sparks so often, you’re automatically glowing brighter, doing better.
Anger usually leads to words that shouldn’t have been said and actions that shouldn’t have been carried out.
And so for everyone who has choosen to choose peace and meekness and gentleness instead as often as possible — you’ve managed to cut down on a lot of nasty repercussions drastically.

7. You’ve grasped the law of Investing and Reaping — it takes time.
They’ll tell you the best things in life takes time before happening.
They actually happen immediately, just at tiny-drops-of-water rate.
Most people don’t realize this one time.
Results are piling up. You just have to wait a while before cashing out on them.
Anyone who gets this automatically stresses less.
No pressure, just efforts upon efforts.

8. Time has become money to you — there’s none to waste.
Time is super precious. Yet, we don’t notice this till so much has passed and we wonder when it happened.
I cannot remember the last time I was “bored”, or had nothing to do.
Even for the days I’m feeling lazy, I know I do have something to do.
If your time is valuable to you, sweetheart you’re living a life of utmost value.

9. You’re crazy in love with yourself.


You’d literally be high up there once you learnt you’re to love yourself — like crazy.
Utterly, unapologetically, wholly, consistently, love yourself.
You can’t settle for anything less than you should, and you won’t take it from someone else either.
So yes, spoil yourself with self-love. You’re on track.
Do yourself good, take life easy, relax more, smile wholeheartedly, take care of external as much as internal, sleep early, eat healthy, exercise frequently, drink water, be careful about radiation, worry less.
And most importantly, you aren’t waiting for someone else to do this for you!
If you’ve learnt this, awesome for you.

10. You’ve understood that there’s more than materialistic, fake and “physical eye-candy” to life.
Sometimes, the most beautiful, most precious, most breathtaking things of life do not reside in fancy-looking containers.
And sometimes, we’re simply admirimg filth in pretty wrappers.
If you understand that not all that blings is some precious stone, you look more before you leap, you examine better, you recognize quality from what’s not.
Here’s something one of my favourite writer says to wrap things up about how mislead we get too often:
“It starts so young, and I’m angry about that.
The garbage we’re taught. About love, about what’s “romantic.” Look at so many of the so-called romantic figures in books and movies. Do we ever stop and think how many of them would cause serious and drastic unhappiness after The End?
Why are sick and dangerous personality types so often shown a passionate and tragic and something to be longed for when those are the very ones you should run for your life from?
Think about it.
Heathcliff. Romeo. Don Juan. Jay Gatsby. Rochester. Mr. Darcy. From the rigid control freak in The Sound of Music to all the bad boys some woman goes running to the airport to catch in the last minute of every romantic comedy. She should let him leave.
Your time is so valuable, and look at these guys–depressive and moody and violent and immature and self-centered. And what about the big daddy of them all, Prince Charming? What was his secret life? We dont know anything about him, other then he looks good and comes to the rescue.”
― Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
Like I like to say, go for the hot thing only, the same ones everyone else is eyeing, most times you get burnt bad.

It’s never too late to get to work on any of these.
And there is never an end to working on any of these.
They make or break us. And for any that we imbibe and carry through life, that’s one more extra battle won, and that counts as so much.

So get better at life.. Go. Grow. Always.
I’m counting on you!
Did this make much sense? Please let me know through the comments section!

And one last thing,
If this was helpful, show some love by sharing with anyone you think needs to see this too!

Have a beautiful, colorful and enlightening week and remember you’re stronger than whatever life throws at you!


Deliciously Yours To Savour,

More Juice?

  • Loved your post! I always try to remind myself that I’m doing better than I realize when I get stressed or overwhelmed. It’s easy to let yourself be brought down by what’s around you.

    • Yeah, it’s so easy for us to beat ourselves up when we’re stressed, but we have to consciously remind ourselves that those moments do not define us!

  • Killy

    The article is really good, i love it. You have a way of writing about what we don’t even notice, and that is really beautiful, i love number 9, (crazy in love with yourself) that part just woke me up!!!! I love your posts, and my friends too. Keep it up, it is an interesting write up

    • Aww, 🙂
      Thank you so much Killy, it’s always exciting to know I’m helping everytime I hit the Publish Button, thanks for reading, so good to know you’re sharing with your friends too!

  • very true. keep it up

  • Great signs to booster self confidence! Plus, congrats on the success of the other post!

  • Lara

    you are right hunny…nice article… thumbs up..

    • Thanks Lara!
      It’s always so good to hear from you, thank you for reading 🙂

  • This is so great.
    I’m currently in the Weight Watchers program to lose some weight and I’ve been doing it since April and my progress is very SLOW. Which makes me feel really discouraged a lot of times and makes me wanna throw my hands up in the air and give up. But reading this just makes me want to persist through the challenges because, no matter what, I’m doing my body good by taking care of it. And by checking on it weekly. And being conscious of the things I’m putting inside of it!

    • That’s so great! Well done Divya!
      I’m glad I was able to encourage with this — keep at it, it’s always worth it at the end!

  • Sometimes, it’s easier to think about how we’ve failed than how we’ve succeeded. This is such a great post to remind ourselves that we have more going right than we realize.

    • Yup, it sure is easy. We cloud our eyes with all that isn’t going rosy we don’t see the good.
      We could all use the reminder occasionally.
      Thanks for stopping by!

  • Thank you for the motivating article. I especially like the past that focuses on slowing the thoughts of anger and to quicken the thoughts to amend.

    • I’m glad you do, Robert R
      Patient and calmer people do much more amd have lesser things to be anger, bitter or sorry for.

  • LOVE this! I think I’m doing ok 🙂

    • That’s pretty good to know, thank you so much for reading Rachel!

  • Great post. And a reminder I needed today

  • lovely blog, keep up good work

  • What a lovely reminder about what is important. Number seven resonates for me, in the sense of being one of the hardest. To allow things to unfold in their own time is not something that comes naturally to me. Great post!

    • I don’t think it’s something that comes natural to alot of people, myself included, but sometimes, it’s the only thing we can do.
      Like I said, these things need constant work, but once we realize their importance, we’re off to a great start!

  • Pat

    This post comes right on time for me, so thanks for the reminder. #9 resonates with me a lot specially when I think about self worth and self acceptance as a way to open up to others.

    • You’re very welcome
      That’s true, nobody’s going to see any reason to love or appreciate your worth it you’re not seeing it first.
      Thanks for reading, Pat.

  • I can relate to #8 so well. I have two kids, a thriving career, a food blog and a travelling hubby. Time is money for me.

    • Wow.
      I can only imagine.
      Well done, Superwoman! 🙂

  • This was a wonderful post! I think we can all use the reminder that we’re doing better at life than we think. I am someone who tends to be very hard on herself, so I’m keeping this list handy to reference later! 🙂

    • And I hope it helps everytime.
      Take care Lisa, thank you for reading!

  • Imaobong at it again… I am not surprised you birthed I am only blessed. Love you Bae.
    Keep on shining!

    • Hehe, thank you Tunji!
      I totally appreciate your support and kind words everytime, thanks for reading.

  • Most people are doing better than what they think. Take the pressure off yourself and be yourself.

    • Very true, we see that only when we learn to focus on the positive more.
      Thanks for chipping that in, Candy!

  • i really loved this post. sometimes its hard to realize how great we are doing under stress
    nice reminder

  • This is a great post, I agree totally even though I have not reached all of them yet. But most of them I have gotten down, so yay!

    • Good for you Paola! It’s all a step at a time 🙂

  • bee

    brilliant post! I’m finally being brave enough to back myself and share my writing with the world. I think you are right – it’s a huge step. So maybe my writing hasn’t made me a “success” in stereotypical ways, but it has in terms of moving forward with my life 🙂

    Thanks so much for sharing this post

    • I totally get you Bee
      Me starting up my own blog was a major step for me, regardless of anything else
      It takes serious courage, and if you find that courage, you’re a winner — end of story.

  • Nifesimi

    Nice piece Ima

  • I totally love this. Loving ourselves is a must and I know this a journey for many of us. Thank you so much for sharing this post…your heart shows.

    • Yup, self-love is important and self-love comes first
      Thank you for stopping by, Sarah!

  • Such an uplifting post!

    Katie | Katie Like Me

  • This is such an awesome post!

    And I agree: it is important to always grow.

    • It sure is! Thank you for reading 🙂

  • 8/10 ain’t bad, i hope! Great share!

    • Not bad at all!
      Thank you for reading 🙂

  • Such an uplifting post! I needed to read something like this!

  • DogVills

    5/10 is it bad? lol I think I should be better now.

    • Not at all
      Every little step counts,my dear.
      As long as we keep working, there’s no stopping us!

  • I love love love this post. I am pretty in love with myself, I just get me haha. I’m in the phase where everyone is getting married, engaged or having babies and I’m like, “I’m gonna go work on my blog and watch Hart of Dixie on Netflix. ” Sometimes it gets frustrating but I know that we all have different paths and that I am working hard and should be proud of myself.

    • Hehe, I love the way that sounds, you’ve obviously found your happy place!
      Stay there always, Dia 🙂

  • Elizabeth O.

    I love this list. It shows your wisdom and how much you’ve grown as a person. I definitely agree, once you learn these things, you’re a better version of yourself and you’re doing better in life too.

    • 🙂 thank you so much, Elizabeth O!
      I’m not perfect, but it’s all about the efforts we consciously put into growing.

  • OMG. I just love this. Most of the points are where I am in life. Some of them are where I’d love to be 🙂 Awesome read!!!

    • It’s the little progress that counts, Vaishnavi!
      Thank you 🙂

  • Thank you Ima. Such an inspiring article. I hope this go viral than i thought. Everyone needs this.

    • Thank you, Adras! I hope it helps as many people as it can 🙂

  • This is such a great inspirational piece. As one who must constantly tell myself “Progress not Perfection”, I really enjoyed reading this encouraging reminder. Thank you for sharing!

    • Yeah, I remind myself of that alot too, cos it can be so easy to forget.
      Thanks for reading!

  • Wisdom and knowledge play an important role in maturity and growing as a person. I think these are valid signs and they are so much better than money, if you ask me.

    • Much more than money, most definitely.

  • Olaitan

    Your posts are always so relatable. Love that. Gradually getting to the point of not being bothered about embarrassing myself.
    Don’t Look Into That Mirror!

    • Thank you so much,Olaitan!
      I only just learnt that myself, and it’s exhilarating!

  • I’m in my 40’s, so reading your post was like watching myself grow up. I said on each of those “I remember when I started doing that.” Aww! I’m all grown up now – and embarrassing myself comes easy. In fact, when I do something stupid, I purposely post it on Facebook just to brighten someone else’s day by letting them laugh at my mistake.

    • Lol this cracked me up!
      That sounds so awesome, Alicia Taylor 🙂
      Confidence is everything, so good to see you have it in abundance!

  • Definitely the slower to anger one! This was a great list!

  • LOVE THIS such a cute post

  • Great post! You hinted around it in several of your points, but being content with your life when everyone around you thinks you’re not doing what they think you should be doing is a good sign.

    • Yeah!
      We give away our power when we constantly seek approval!

  • This is a great post! You put together some really good points also it’s always nice to have a reminder that you’re doing just fine.

    • Yeah, we all need that reminder ever so often!

  • I really enjoyed this article. I have to say I am definitely more of a listener

    • Then you’re definitely doing it right!
      Thanks for reading, Crystal Gard 🙂

  • This is very true! i’ve become a listener and slower to get angry. This post will help us to make a better person.

    • That’s one habit that changes everything as soon as we master it.
      Thank you for stopping by, Chei!

  • Ileana

    These are all so true! What a great post to remember how well one is doing 🙂
    This was so helpful!

    • I’m glad it was
      Thank you for reading!

  • A lot to digest this morning but great post.

  • Such an awesome read for a confidence boat. I needed this!

    • Or boost. Not boat. Morning coffee isn’t working, yet.

      • Lol, we’d give it some time 🙂
        Thanks for reading Tyane!

  • Loved this post, so well written. Taking responsibility for your actions (whether good or bad) is definitely a good thing, taking a huge weight off your mind.

    • Oh yes, and it’s very humbling too!
      That’s one effect it had on me. Thanks for reading 🙂

  • I’ve never been able to do what I love because I never knew what that thing was. I now know it’s definitely blogging though!
    Aleeha xXx

    • Been there too, so I definitely know that feeling 🙂
      Good for you, Aleeha!

  • Jena Proctor

    I guess I am doing pretty good! HAHA Great post! I made many changes that could be stressors, but I’m doing what I love now!

    • That’s so good to know.:-)
      It’s always great to see people finding their paths in life!
      Thank you for stopping by!

  • Numbers 6 and 8 resonate with me the most. I’m incredibly proud of the personal growth I’ve had over the past few years. I use to feel like I was a hot head, but now I am slower to react (even when people -reallyyyy- deserve it). Furthermore, I am better with my time as I get older especially because I become cranky pants if I don’t sleep for 8 hours! lol

    • Lol
      That’s so good to hear
      Us growing up also helps us realize a couple of these things.
      Thanks for reading!

  • Ourfamilyworld

    Wow, guess I am doing it right! This is so fun to read!

  • Huffington Post needs you. Medium needs you. Any high traffic website needs you. But you know what? You are enough, and you know you are enough, so those things will come. I’m just a very interested reader in your growth and I’d like to see you go places with your writing. The best part is that is starts here, right where you built it.
    Btw, the lines below need to be Instagram’s motto. What do you think? There’s too much “pretty” on there in my opinion. The kind of pretty that lacks depth, quality or long-term value.
    >>Sometimes, the most beautiful, most precious, most breathtaking things of life do not reside in fancy-looking containers.
    And sometimes, we’re simply admiring filth in pretty wrappers.<<

    We should collaborate on a post.

    • 🙂
      And I wake up to a lot of comments from my new favorite fashion and lifestyle blogger!
      Totally made my day, and it’s just 9:30!
      Thank you so much Memkoh! This means a lot to me
      And we should most definitely collaborate on a post, I’d be looking forward to that 🙂

  • Doris Amaka

    Recently i had made a decision an wasn’t sure if I was doing the right thing and I had doubts about the outcome and started blaming myself as well as having fear of te unknown but with what I just read I have reassurement that am on the right track….thank you lemons lemonade

    • Aww that’s so good to know 🙂
      Thank you so much for stopping by, Doris!
      And I hope everything ends well

  • aziel morte

    This is absolutely a great post, I really need this

  • Great post! I love number three “You’re doing something that you love”.

  • Fisayo Bayo – Banjoko

    Wonderful article. Thank you for the post