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| “It‘s a funny thing, how much time we spend planning our lives. We so convince ourselves of what we want to do, that sometimes we don‘t see what we‘re meant to do.” |
― Susan Gregg Gilmore, Looking for Salvation at the Dairy Queen
Don’t we just hate it when this happens?
I know I do.
It’s especially a million and one times worse when we’re so confident everything is in place after all the planning and then…
Everything just … goes.
Well it’s hardly to buy into an explanation.
Or muster the patient and strength needed to comfort ourselves with one.
Usually, there isn’t one general answer as to why this happens, but there are common reasons we often don’t realize are very key factors.
Here are a couple I recently realized:
7. We Really Didn’t Plan Them
Have you ever carried out an action and automatically, as soon as you finished, as soon as you stepped away from the examination hall, the lecture room, the board meeting, the room, the computer screen, that you most definitely could have done better?
You were totally sure you had it, and then you come face-to-face with it and all that we denied attention to drops right in your face.
Sometimes it’s not just nervousness, it’s the realization.
We didn’t give our best shot.
We were mediocre with it.
We didn’t focus. And kill.
And we know it.
Yeah, we did a thing or two but we could have definitely taken it more seriously.
This is one we frequently fall victims/ to because of one big problem: Laziness.
If you can’t finish up an action and have a healthy amount of confident that you put in all you could, that’s where it starts, really.
6. We Planned Them
Some things don’t need this.
And sometimes, it’s pretty much crystal clear.
We can’t control plenty of things about life, and when we try to, most times everything falls out of place.
Yes, we’re supposed to try to align our blocks in the pattern we want them to take, but there isn’t a steady guarantee they’d stay put.
So don’t force things too much.
Like an article on one of my favorite sites explains,
| … “we’re not walking a path, we’re surfing a sea”. | . (Life being the sea).
It’s hard to do our best and leave the rest, it’s hard to not want to “help ourselves” even when we’ve done more than enough, but we have to.
5. We Needed More Or Less Hands Planning Them
| ” Too many cooks spoil the broth (soup) |
| “Two heads are better than one.” |
You know these statements, now don’t you?
Well every single time you start something, sit your excited (or nervous) self down and figure out which of these work better for that situation.
For example: If you’re about starting up a new brand, I can tell you with all confidence that too many people trying to spice your pot of soup would make it too salty.
And no one would want it anymore. You’re gonna have to throw it out and start all over.
If you’re done starting and you’re trying to grow a new brand, then two heads automatically become better than one.
If you use the wrong formula for a situation, it could get pretty messy.
Know your formula, apply to your problem. (Btw no, I’m no geek. I actually battled with math in high school).
4. Our Plans Weren’t Exactly Reasonable
Here’s a pill I hope you can swallow:
If you’re dreaming big, looking at something big, wanting something big, after something big, please please please, stop expecting it to be served on a golden plate to you in a small amount of time.
With a small amount of work.
Dropping a small amount of sweat.
It doesn’t work that way.
If you aren’t willing to execute and wait for results, you might as well pack up and go home.
If you aren’t related to Beyonce, don’t venture out at something and become depressed because you aren’t getting attention from day (or month) one. (Tell-Impatience-Bye)
Don’t save money for a mansion at the rate you’d be saving if it were a hut.
You might as well stop staring at it if you want to work like you’re after something much smaller.
Don’t practice driving with a manual car if you’re hoping for an automatic on your birthday.
Be realistic. Examine your expectations.
3. There’s Already A Laid Down Plan For That
Sometimes, some things are right there, staring us in the face, offering a clear and easy-to-follow-through map.
But we’d rather pass.
We’d rather try to do it our own way.
While it’s a good thing to figure out the best approach on your own, it’s like buying a new electronic gadget and choosing to not read the manual that comes along with it.
Yeah, you most likely won’t need to read it page by page, front to back, line by line, from the start to the end, but you would most definitely need some basic information, now won’t you?
Don’t just dive into anything, learn the basics, do your research … and then carry out some tweaks and trials on the way.
2. You Limited Your Plans
Be prepared for obstacles or fall out of the game.
Let’s take Albert Einstein as our example here:
Albert Einstein didn’t get the light bulb right at the first trial. Or 100th
Now, with all sincerity, wouldn’t it have been justifiable if he’d come out to say;
“People of planet Earth, I have been working on a theory of light bulbs.. (You can imagine how many people would be laughing with mockery at this part) and I have attempted it *insert number* times and now I’m tired and dropping this experiment.”
Would he not have had a valid reason to do that? Would you not if you were him?
But nope. To him, he didn’t.
And that’s how it should be!
Sometimes, we can be so rigid.
We limit the pathways to test. We limit the approaches we follow. We limit how wide we can actually plan.We limit our own capabilities.
1. Things Just Shouldn’t Have Gone As You Planned Them.
And sometimes, this is a good thing.
We don’t see it at first most times, thanks to the frustration and the anger and the disappointment that’ll completely cloud our heads.
But those failures, those roadblocks, discomfort us.
And you know what wise people do with their discomforts?
Take off the dis-, by looking for the “moral lesson” in that chapter of their life, by discovering what went wrong, by picking out learning points, and most importantly, by refusing to be held back by the past.
Every wrong result we got only shows us one more wrong path we can avoid from now.
Nothing has changed. Really.
And as Christiantoday.com says in it’s post of What To Do When Things Don’t Work Out As Planned, and I quote:
| “…And lastly, we can better prepare ourselves if we expect difficulties. Life’s hard, and yet we’re told to give thanks in all circumstances. I like to think that ‘giving thanks’ doesn’t have to look pretty all the time, but we should recognise that our faith is something – or rather someone – worth holding on to.” |
So hold on. This too shall pass.
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